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Well, I'm just writing to share my opinion with the others on here. No matter how old I am... I'm just gonna say away everything I have about this.

I think that young parents aren't really bad, but they can't make the right decision, and I guess it could be all the time, because when a girl or a guy gets to be a parent at the age of 16 (for example), they will be disappointing parents, because they are still teens.

I'm not a very religious person, I  love my God and try to obey him in my own ways and actions. So I think that most of the teens have sex, do drugs, drink, or accept being in the wrong group because of not being well-taught. In my opinion, I think that parents should tell their teens or children - in general- about sex and about the adolescence. They should tell them that in this period or level of life many changes will happen in their body & mind. They should also tell them and encourge them to be strong, and sensible.

Everybody thinks of sex or "having sex" not only  the teens. But because the adolescence is the most dangerous period in a man's life, teens should know how to resist and stand strong for such thoughts or actions! Their parents should tell them that (to stand strong and stuff....) when they feel that their son/daughter is grown enough to know or to think or to commit such things. What they should tell their son / daughter is to be strong, and to let them know that there's no stupidity on earth. Everyone can make their right decision when they have a strong will. Telling your teen he /she is smart, good-looking, with a strong will, can support them resist the bad inclination and get rid of them. In our western society, we rarely tell our teens or children when they are old enough to think about having sex or something, about God! You can change your teen in one sitting (or meeting) about God. You should also fear them! Because it's reality, that everyone is going to die some day and everyone is going to take what they deserve. Which is the Punishment of God. Life is sweet and we should enjoy every moment; I totally agree with that, but we shouldn't forget about our Lord, and we should set to everything red lines.  

I just think that every parent should be careful with their teen, and discuss them with the topics they are willing to know about. Keep telling your teen about theit talents (everyone has a talent, no matter what it is. No one is without any talent), having a "completed" conscience, and how worth it is to have a good conscience!

Good luck everyone.

Thanks. 

My hat does go off to you.  I know that isn't anything that would make you want to give up your daughter and she is your life.  But what it wasn't an easy road, was it? 

I don't feel that all teen parents are bad, but I do think that teen parents cheat themselves and everyone around them out of childhood, or stages of being a parent.  There is a higher number of teens who can't handle it, and the ones that suffer the most are the innocent babies being brought into this world.

I'm speaking from experience.  My older sister had her first child at 18.  The boy she thought "loved" her, didn't.  He had his fun and that was it.  Our family worked together on helping her raise her son; however, my nephew had a father that wanted nothing to do with him.  That has left him scared, which plaied a part in some of his poor decisions. 

As a sibling, of a teen parent, I had to also give up my childhood to assist in raising my nephew.  At times I feel like my younger sisters and I actually gave up more of our childhoods, so my sister could do her own thing.  We took him to our volleyball practices when we were in high school, we staied home with him when he was sick.  Or got up with him at night.  At the time I felt my mother was punishing us for my sister's poor choice, but it actually stopped me from becoming sexually active until later in life.  I knew first hand some of the things you have to sacarfice when you are parent.  The number one rule as a parent is you can't be selfish.  Your number one priority is your child now.

Even though I wasn't a teen mom, I had the responsiblity of one, and I missed out on fun events at school because of it, and at times I hold ill feelings towards my sister for making that choice to have sex and have unprotected sex.  I know my nephew deals with abondonment issues because of his father, and because at times his mother choose going to the bar over spending time with him, or settling for an abusive man just so she had a warm body in her bed.

Your few seconds of pleasure can lead to years of hardship, and emotional problems for everyone around you.  It just isn't about you.