Quote From: housewife52I found this to be a very thought provoking show. The one thing that is hard for me to understand is how swingers feel that this is not cheating. They say that because they are both in agreement with swinging then it's not cheating on each other.
It's just hard to get my brain wrapped around this. A thought occured to me when I remembered a situation with my son when he was probably 5th grade. He had a friend over. I looked out the window and they were throwing rocks at each other. I went out and made them stop. My son said "But mom, we're not mad, we just want to throw rocks at each other." I told him I was glad they weren't mad,but I still didn't want them to throw rocks at each other because there might be consequences, one of them might get hurt.
Is it kinda like this? That you both agree and you're not doing it behind each other's backs then it's not considered cheating. Just trying to understand where your coming from.
I'm not a swing, but I can understand 2 adults making a choice together agreeing to do it and doing and it not being wrong, maybe morally wrong but not wrong for there relationship.
Me and my husband use to sparr together before I was pregnant with my son. Would I let a couple of kids go outside with sparring sticks and start training alone NO. Would I do it with another adult YES. Even through it can hurt us, and yes you can get badly damaged, I have had full knees go into my chest, I have had my hands and back hit with sticks, sure they were all accdients but thats why you wouldn't let children do it without adults around. But thats the difference between adults and children.
cheating is To be sexually unfaithful. Unfaithful is not faithful; false to duty, obligation, or promises; faithless; disloyal. Now I don't see swingers doing that. They have made an agreement so there is no breaking of rules, or of ones duty.
