Replies to '06/26 Teens Having Babies'
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January 27, 2008, 5:03 am PST
 Quote From: samalie Well, I'm just writing to share my opinion with the others on here. No matter how old I am... I'm just gonna say away everything I have about this. I think that young parents aren't really bad, but they can't make the right decision, and I guess it could be all the time, because when a girl or a guy gets to be a parent at the age of 16 (for example), they will be disappointing parents, because they are still teens. I'm not a very religious person, I love my God and try to obey him in my own ways and actions. So I think that most of the teens have sex, do drugs, drink, or accept being in the wrong group because of not being well-taught. In my opinion, I think that parents should tell their teens or children - in general- about sex and about the adolescence. They should tell them that in this period or level of life many changes will happen in their body & mind. They should also tell them and encourge them to be strong, and sensible. Everybody thinks of sex or "having sex" not only the teens. But because the adolescence is the most dangerous period in a man's life, teens should know how to resist and stand strong for such thoughts or actions! Their parents should tell them that (to stand strong and stuff....) when they feel that their son/daughter is grown enough to know or to think or to commit such things. What they should tell their son / daughter is to be strong, and to let them know that there's no stupidity on earth. Everyone can make their right decision when they have a strong will. Telling your teen he /she is smart, good-looking, with a strong will, can support them resist the bad inclination and get rid of them. In our western society, we rarely tell our teens or children when they are old enough to think about having sex or something, about God! You can change your teen in one sitting (or meeting) about God. You should also fear them! Because it's reality, that everyone is going to die some day and everyone is going to take what they deserve. Which is the Punishment of God. Life is sweet and we should enjoy every moment; I totally agree with that, but we shouldn't forget about our Lord, and we should set to everything red lines.
I just think that every parent should be careful with their teen, and discuss them with the topics they are willing to know about. Keep telling your teen about theit talents (everyone has a talent, no matter what it is. No one is without any talent), having a "completed" conscience, and how worth it is to have a good conscience! Good luck everyone. Thanks. There are all different kinds of situations with teen pregnancies. One of the girls on the show seems to WANT to get pregnant on purpose. So many teens just end up pregnant by accident, due to lack of birth control. I think it kind of rushes life experiences to get pregnant as a teen. The teen years are a time to discover yourself and the world around you. There's plenty of time for babies at a later date.
I agree with you, parents should keep an open dialogue with thier teens. Sometimes, no matter how hard parents try, thier teens end up pregnant. Years ago, both of the teenager daughters of the minister where I was going to church, got pregnant and "had" to get married. Knowing the minister and his wife, I'm sure they had taught thier daughters differently, it just didn't work out that way.
I was very open with my kids when they were teens and very involved in thier lives. Against what my church believes, we talked to them about birth control along with abstinence. We all made it through those years pretty much unscathed. (No babies)
Yes, parents need to be very involved in thier teens lives. All we can do as parents is hang in there and do the VERY best we can. It's a difficult time in raising children. |
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February 1, 2008, 6:06 pm PST
Quote From: samalie Well, I'm just writing to share my opinion with the others on here. No matter how old I am... I'm just gonna say away everything I have about this. I think that young parents aren't really bad, but they can't make the right decision, and I guess it could be all the time, because when a girl or a guy gets to be a parent at the age of 16 (for example), they will be disappointing parents, because they are still teens. I'm not a very religious person, I love my God and try to obey him in my own ways and actions. So I think that most of the teens have sex, do drugs, drink, or accept being in the wrong group because of not being well-taught. In my opinion, I think that parents should tell their teens or children - in general- about sex and about the adolescence. They should tell them that in this period or level of life many changes will happen in their body & mind. They should also tell them and encourge them to be strong, and sensible. Everybody thinks of sex or "having sex" not only the teens. But because the adolescence is the most dangerous period in a man's life, teens should know how to resist and stand strong for such thoughts or actions! Their parents should tell them that (to stand strong and stuff....) when they feel that their son/daughter is grown enough to know or to think or to commit such things. What they should tell their son / daughter is to be strong, and to let them know that there's no stupidity on earth. Everyone can make their right decision when they have a strong will. Telling your teen he /she is smart, good-looking, with a strong will, can support them resist the bad inclination and get rid of them. In our western society, we rarely tell our teens or children when they are old enough to think about having sex or something, about God! You can change your teen in one sitting (or meeting) about God. You should also fear them! Because it's reality, that everyone is going to die some day and everyone is going to take what they deserve. Which is the Punishment of God. Life is sweet and we should enjoy every moment; I totally agree with that, but we shouldn't forget about our Lord, and we should set to everything red lines.
I just think that every parent should be careful with their teen, and discuss them with the topics they are willing to know about. Keep telling your teen about theit talents (everyone has a talent, no matter what it is. No one is without any talent), having a "completed" conscience, and how worth it is to have a good conscience! Good luck everyone. Thanks. I myself am one that was raised being taught about how wrong it is to have premarital sex. I remember even promising as a teenager (to God--so I thought that's what I was doing) that I would not have premarital sex. I got pregnant my senior year and had my first baby at the age of 18. I got married when I was 6 mos. pregnant and graduated from high school a little over a month later. At the age of 20 I had my second baby. Then I got my tubes tied. After eight years of marriage, I divorced. By then I had graduated from college. The marriage was not a good one, ofcourse, because I was not ready for marriage. I got married because I was having a baby, and that is what I thought I had to do or what I thought would be best for our baby. I was not ready to be a mother at that age either, but the fact is that when that is so--you just do what you have to. I don't feel that teaching me that premarital sex was wrong helped me. I wish people around me would have been more realistic and taught me more about birth control instead of pushing abstinence so much. Clearly it doesn't work. I don't regret my choices. I have learned so much from my life experiences, and I am who I am now because of those experiences. I'm not a perfect mother, but I do my best. I know I've heard that it's not always enough, but I think if you do your best in what really matters it should be enough. As a single mother now, I do struggle financially. No I'm not on welfare. I do the best to support myself and my children without having to do that. My children have everything they need and many of the things they've wanted. What's most important above everything else I think is to accept your children for who they are and let it be known to them. So many parents try to live through their children or turn their children into them. From my experience that is far more damaging above everthing else. I myself come from parents that didn't even marry until they were in their 30's and started having their children after 2 yrs. of marriage. Age doesn't necessarily make everybody better parents. It just depends on the situation. I think TV shows are mainly interested in showing the bad because that's what more people will watch, and I guess because there are many situations like that--that more people can learn from. However, they have to also know that it is not always like that, nor does it have to be. Yes, it's difficult, but so are many other things in life. |
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