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People suppose they  have the right not to be offended by a baby crying or made uncomfortable by seeing a baby nursing, but that is their desire, not the actual case. That kind of sense of entitlement is founded on a false premise. 

There is no such thing as "The Right Not To Be Offended".  

For example, if I am eating out and the man at the table next to me does something I find offensive, say, chews loudly with his mouth wide open, which actually does make me sick and can ruin a meal for me, I can go over to his table and request for him to sit somewhere else, or I can ask the wait staff to have him finish his meal in the car, or possibly cover up with a tablecloth, right? We all know I'd be laughed out of the place if I responded that way, even though he was being impolite in my opinion. It isn't reasonable to believe that my opinion of his actions should obligate him to change his behavior, even though I wish he would. And it isn't reasonable to believe that holding the opinion that breastfeeding is impolite means a mom should be obligated to avoid doing it in front of you or to do it in a way you find acceptable.  

Seems like there are quite a few people out there that would like to think they are entitled to have others meet their personal comfort needs, they seem to feel that rather than taking responsibility for their own discomfort if they see something they don't like, that the "offender" should then assume responsibilty for making them more comfortable. Adults are capable of meeting their own comfort needs. All it takes on their part to avoid being uncomfortable is to look away. But rather than doing so, they choose not to meet their own needs and then blame someone else for their discomfort.  

If you have eyes, and ears, the reality is that you will sometimes see and hear things that you would rather not. A desire to be comfortable with the way the babies around you are eating is a preference that no one else is obligated to accomodate. It's not a matter of politeness or courtesy - feeding a baby is neither impolite nor "inconsiderate" nor discourteous in itself - it's unrealistic and self-absorbed to expect someone else to meet your own petty comfort needs. The general public is not responsible for understanding and  accomodating everyone else's personal preferences. 

Whether I like seeing a baby breastfeeding or not, it's my responsibility to take care of my own comfort. It's not up to perfect strangers going about their business to see that I remain in my own personal comfort zone. 

People suppose they  have the right not to be offended by a baby crying or made uncomfortable by seeing a baby nursing, but that is their desire, not the actual case. That kind of sense of entitlement is founded on a false premise. 

There is no such thing as "The Right Not To Be Offended".  

For example, if I am eating out and the man at the table next to me does something I find offensive, say, chews loudly with his mouth wide open, which actually does make me sick and can ruin a meal for me, I can go over to his table and request for him to sit somewhere else, or I can ask the wait staff to have him finish his meal in the car, or possibly cover up with a tablecloth, right? We all know I'd be laughed out of the place if I responded that way, even though he was being impolite in my opinion. It isn't reasonable to believe that my opinion of his actions should obligate him to change his behavior, even though I wish he would. And it isn't reasonable to believe that holding the opinion that breastfeeding is impolite means a mom should be obligated to avoid doing it in front of you or to do it in a way you find acceptable.  

Seems like there are quite a few people out there that would like to think they are entitled to have others meet their personal comfort needs, they seem to feel that rather than taking responsibility for their own discomfort if they see something they don't like, that the "offender" should then assume responsibilty for making them more comfortable. Adults are capable of meeting their own comfort needs. All it takes on their part to avoid being uncomfortable is to look away. But rather than doing so, they choose not to meet their own needs and then blame someone else for their discomfort.  

If you have eyes, and ears, the reality is that you will sometimes see and hear things that you would rather not. A desire to be comfortable with the way the babies around you are eating is a preference that no one else is obligated to accomodate. It's not a matter of politeness or courtesy - feeding a baby is neither impolite nor "inconsiderate" nor discourteous in itself - it's unrealistic and self-absorbed to expect someone else to meet your own petty comfort needs. The general public is not responsible for understanding and  accomodating everyone else's personal preferences. 

Whether I like seeing a baby breastfeeding or not, it's my responsibility to take care of my own comfort. It's not up to perfect strangers going about their business to see that I remain in my own personal comfort zone. 

People suppose they  have the right not to be offended by a baby crying or made uncomfortable by seeing a baby nursing, but that is their desire, not the actual case. That kind of sense of entitlement is founded on a false premise. 

There is no such thing as "The Right Not To Be Offended".  

For example, if I am eating out and the man at the table next to me does something I find offensive, say, chews loudly with his mouth wide open, which actually does make me sick and can ruin a meal for me, I can go over to his table and request for him to sit somewhere else, or I can ask the wait staff to have him finish his meal in the car, or possibly cover up with a tablecloth, right? We all know I'd be laughed out of the place if I responded that way, even though he was being impolite in my opinion. It isn't reasonable to believe that my opinion of his actions should obligate him to change his behavior, even though I wish he would. And it isn't reasonable to believe that holding the opinion that breastfeeding is impolite means a mom should be obligated to avoid doing it in front of you or to do it in a way you find acceptable.  

Seems like there are quite a few people out there that would like to think they are entitled to have others meet their personal comfort needs, they seem to feel that rather than taking responsibility for their own discomfort if they see something they don't like, that the "offender" should then assume responsibilty for making them more comfortable. Adults are capable of meeting their own comfort needs. All it takes on their part to avoid being uncomfortable is to look away. But rather than doing so, they choose not to meet their own needs and then blame someone else for their discomfort.  

If you have eyes, and ears, the reality is that you will sometimes see and hear things that you would rather not. A desire to be comfortable with the way the babies around you are eating is a preference that no one else is obligated to accomodate. It's not a matter of politeness or courtesy - feeding a baby is neither impolite nor "inconsiderate" nor discourteous in itself - it's unrealistic and self-absorbed to expect someone else to meet your own petty comfort needs. The general public is not responsible for understanding and  accomodating everyone else's personal preferences. 

Whether I like seeing a baby breastfeeding or not, it's my responsibility to take care of my own comfort. It's not up to perfect strangers going about their business to see that I remain in my own personal comfort zone. 

People suppose they  have the right not to be offended by a baby crying or made uncomfortable by seeing a baby nursing, but that is their desire, not the actual case. That kind of sense of entitlement is founded on a false premise. 

There is no such thing as "The Right Not To Be Offended".  

For example, if I am eating out and the man at the table next to me does something I find offensive, say, chews loudly with his mouth wide open, which actually does make me sick and can ruin a meal for me, I can go over to his table and request for him to sit somewhere else, or I can ask the wait staff to have him finish his meal in the car, or possibly cover up with a tablecloth, right? We all know I'd be laughed out of the place if I responded that way, even though he was being impolite in my opinion. It isn't reasonable to believe that my opinion of his actions should obligate him to change his behavior, even though I wish he would. And it isn't reasonable to believe that holding the opinion that breastfeeding is impolite means a mom should be obligated to avoid doing it in front of you or to do it in a way you find acceptable.  

Seems like there are quite a few people out there that would like to think they are entitled to have others meet their personal comfort needs, they seem to feel that rather than taking responsibility for their own discomfort if they see something they don't like, that the "offender" should then assume responsibilty for making them more comfortable. Adults are capable of meeting their own comfort needs. All it takes on their part to avoid being uncomfortable is to look away. But rather than doing so, they choose not to meet their own needs and then blame someone else for their discomfort.  

If you have eyes, and ears, the reality is that you will sometimes see and hear things that you would rather not. A desire to be comfortable with the way the babies around you are eating is a preference that no one else is obligated to accomodate. It's not a matter of politeness or courtesy - feeding a baby is neither impolite nor "inconsiderate" nor discourteous in itself - it's unrealistic and self-absorbed to expect someone else to meet your own petty comfort needs. The general public is not responsible for understanding and  accomodating everyone else's personal preferences. 

Whether I like seeing a baby breastfeeding or not, it's my responsibility to take care of my own comfort. It's not up to perfect strangers going about their business to see that I remain in my own personal comfort zone.