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I'm sure that as her friend it is painful for you to see you friend in pain.  I'm curious though, when you try to reach out to her and talk to her, how do you approach it?  I'm not criticizing.  Her being in the lifestype may or may not have anything to do with her past.  I say that because I've been there.  Not the same situation as her but I too was a victim of child sexual abuse by multiple members of my family.  I'm sure that alot of people would automatically say that explains why I am in the lifestyle.  It did but didn't have an impact on my decision.  It took me years to find and gain my self esteem.  That was something I did long before I chose to go into the lifestyle.  Prior to my finding a way to heal, there is no way I could have done this.  I actually enjoy sex now and yes I do enjoy sex with multiple people at one time, including women.  And incase anyone is thinking this, I will go ahead and clear something up, my husband did not talk me into going into the lifestyle.  I was the one that brought the subject up.  Alot of people on here have voiced an opinion that they basically thought that swingers were condemed to Hell and when I die, you maybe right but I can tell you one thing, I have already seen Hell, for 14 years out of the first 17 years of my life!  Sorry didn't mean to go on a tirate but if you want to help your friend, and if she is having outbursts like that then it sounds like she needs help, talk to her and listen to her but not about swinging, about what's going on inside her and be supportive not critical.