Quote From: laurieg14In MY mind, no matter what kind of tragedy or problems you have had in the past, that you could possibly justify lowering yourself to sleeping with 15 different men while being in a commited relationship. I CAN actually speak from SOME semblance of experience having had to leave home at the ripe old age of 16, and later on having lost my infant daughter to SIDS. I believe you have to take responsability for your own actions as it will only be yourself who pays later on for your mistakes and possibly your children as theyll absorb EVERYTHING that goes on around them no matter HOW well you THINK you are hiding things from them. They see EVERYTHING. I dont think your partner should have to pay for the things you do either. I honestly believe that in todays society there are FAR too many people that like to blame everything, and everybody else for their problems instead of just dealing with them, or getting HELP dealing with them. Blaming a situation, or your parents, or a spouse, or WHATEVER will only hurt YOU. You have to be able to acknowledge it, and FACE it head on, or youll only end up destroying yourself ( or your KIDS, who incidentally never ASKED to BE here!) and never leading a productive life.
I agree with this message. Hiding secrets always leads to disasters. If you can't be honest with yourself, how can you be honest with anyone else, especially the one you chose to spend your life with. For better or worse does not mean that the worst is yet to come. It does not mean that you cheated in the past, got away with it and can continue doing it. You are not only cheating on your spouse, but you are also cheating on your children, family and friends. I was married to this person who traveled a lot and I was 2 months pregnant at a time he went on a business trip. Yeah right, business all right, it was monkey business. When I found out, which was not too long after he returned, on his next trip low and behold to his surprise when he returned from his BUSINESS TRIP, I stood at the top of the stairs waiting for him to come in and as he did, I handed him a set of keys to his new apartment, had his clothes packed and was even kind enough to have boxes with dishes, silverware, and cookware for him to take. When he said what the hell is this, I said "your keys to your new apartment, and your stuff to go along with it. " Now you can cheat all you want loser. Shortly thereafter, he was served with divorce papers.
I've learned never to EXPECT anything from anyone because you will no doubt be DISAPPOINTED. People are going to cheat till death due them part and that is a fact. Too much temptation out there male and females. Not too many people understand the meaning of commitment. I have been single now for 14 years and NEVER plan on getting married again. I am very happy with who I am. I very rarely date and like it this way.
Cheating is total chaos, disrespectful and pathetic. People who cheat are losers.
