Quote From: anon_slcIf you are with in a relationship with someone, you expect the relationship to grow and deepen over time; you expect a heart connection to be made and maintained. You operate your life based on this expectation. When your partner in the relationship does not or cannot make an emotional connection, the relationship becomes very painful. Some of my favorite books that provide a great introduction and insight into personality types most capable of repeated infidelity are:
Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation and Guilt to Manipulate You by Susan Forward AND Why Is It Always About You? The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism by Sandy Hotchkiss
Malignant Self Love: Narcissism Revisited by Sam Vaknin MAYBE The Professional Bachelors Dating Guide: How to Exploit Her Inner Psycho by Dr Brett Tate
Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery From Borderline Personality Disorder by Rachel Reiland OR Girl Interrupted by Susanna Kaysen AND Stop Walking on Eggshells by Paul Mason and Randi Kreger
Healthy Boundaries Workbook: Using Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills to Set and Maintain Better Boundaries by Deborah Deiboldt Legge OR Overcoming Passive-Aggression by Tim Murphy and Loriann Oberlin
How to Journal for Therapy:
http://arar.essortment.com/therapyjournali_repu.htm
Healing Anxiety and Depression (7 types of anxiety and depression) by Daniel Amen and Lisa Routh OR Getting Help: The Complete and Authoritative Guide to Self-Assessment and Treatment of Mental Health Problems by Jeffrey Wood
Though harder to spot, emotional abuse is easier to deny. But just as physical abuse has signposts to mark its presence, emotional abuse, being a systematic attack on one's sense of self, has common traits. Physical abuse comes in degrees of severity - emotional abuse also runs the gamut of intensity and damage.
There are relationships, marriages and families that are so destructive the only option is for a person to get out. Get out with the little bit of sanity you may have remaining. Make a promise to yourself to leave. Leave so you can begin a life of healing and recovery. Leave so you can learn to live a joyful, peaceful, trusting, supportive, and fulfilling life.
Hope it helps!
I had to leave my home because my husband had multiple affairs i had found out just recently. He and my 15 year old daughter do not get along because she has seen him be terribly mean, and she refuses to put up with it. My other 2 teens stayed with him for now, he treats my youngest differently. He likes to point the finger at her and say this is all her fault. I would not leave my home over a kis and her dad not getting along i left him cause i cannot stand sleeping with a creep who put my life at risk while sleeping around with trash. i have to move on.
