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February 9, 2008, 4:51 pm PST
02/08 "My Worst Valentine!"
Quote From: kkmiausaMy husband has not in over 25 years bought anything for these occasions. We are well respected in the community and I have served in public office for many years. Looking at us people would think we are the perfect couple but my husband is not the least bit romantic. Even the gifts for our friends and son, I buy. He never even contributes towards the money for them. It is very sad for me. I love giving things to people that I know mean something to them. It doesn't even have to be a lot of money, it is just the thought. I think it is a sign that he really doesn't have respect for my feelings. When we were first dating he bought me something that I never used so his excuse is that whatever he would buy I would not like. He at least used to give me a check, now he doesn't even do that. It is not a happy way to live. I always buy things for me and he loves getting gifts. That sucks! It really does! I am married to a physician who makes alot of money and has always been a boy scout...Always here at night, reads alot to make sure his patients are well cared for, provides well for his kids however in all the 25+ years of marriage he has never bought a gift. I do have equal footing as far as our banlk account and money but I am solely responsible for any occassion that requires gifts. Even at Christmas I am to make sure he had something to wrap for me so the kids wouldn't think he was "bad". I am an enabler because after all these years I never told them he didn't get it. My oldest once asked why my gift never was that expensoive and he blew up. I just am not into buying myself an expensive gift and pretending he did it so I always made sure it was practical. On anniversaries we always just went out to dinner(I planned) and I would give him a card. Birthdays were like Christmas, except the last 3-4 I have just said I didn't want anything so I didn't get anything. My son is the polar opposite. Thank God he will know how to be attentive to a woman as he is very thoughtful and observant and I have raised a gentleman. My daughters I have raised to realize money isn't everything and it is the thought that counts when gift giving. Unfortunately I was never the thought in my husband's mind. I get very angry around holidays liuke Valentine's Day. Women like to compare. I always say..oh he is so busy so I just got a card this time when in fact I got zilch but I frequently am reminded how fortunate I am that he provides so well..MONEY is not all that and a bag of chips!
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