My husband and I just celebrated our second anniversary and I feel like I'm doing everything right, but feel disatisfied. I'm 28 yrs. old and have a good background on being a "good wife", due to my mother's constant bickering of being a "good wife" ( cooking, cleaning, maintaining the house and family) while growing up. Basically, to be a submissive wife. I didn't realize then, what I know now. So,I grew up thinking that I would finish highschool and be married, have kids, and be a "good wife" to my husband. My mother always reminded me and my sisters, that a "good wife" should not argue, make any decisions, have no opinions or desires. I always resented her for conditioning me to be a submissive wife. However, I grew up the opposite but from time to time, I would fall back into the submissive wife role. I think I got the "good wife" role down - where do I go from here?
you must have some things you dream about that you think would be fun to do someday, maybe now is the time to make plans to do them. You can start with just little things like a trip to a resort where they will pamper you for the day. Induldge yourself once in a while, you have been a good girl, you deserve it. Have an open line of communication with your partner and if he is understanding it shouldn't be any problem at all, maybe you two can go on a trip together, but this time you make the plans.
My husband and I just celebrated our second anniversary and I feel like I'm doing everything right, but feel disatisfied. I'm 28 yrs. old and have a good background on being a "good wife", due to my mother's constant bickering of being a "good wife" ( cooking, cleaning, maintaining the house and family) while growing up. Basically, to be a submissive wife. I didn't realize then, what I know now. So,I grew up thinking that I would finish highschool and be married, have kids, and be a "good wife" to my husband. My mother always reminded me and my sisters, that a "good wife" should not argue, make any decisions, have no opinions or desires. I always resented her for conditioning me to be a submissive wife. However, I grew up the opposite but from time to time, I would fall back into the submissive wife role. I think I got the "good wife" role down - where do I go from here?
You don't have to be submissive to be a good wife. I am certainly not submissive, even though everybody seems to think so. I make my own decisions, I voice my opinion and rarely does my husband make any decisions without talking to me about it.
He has his job, I have my job and we work together. Mutual erspect is what it's all about.
