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Replies to '02/06 Pill Popping Twins'
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February 6, 2008, 3:35 pm PST
 Quote From: motherwifeof3 I did it too! My mom didnt give a flip, she was a drug addict and I was a lost child. Three children and three marriages later I am not hooked on drugs. I do take Zanex to sleep bc I am so hard on myself I suffer from severe insomnia, a result of my mother constantly telling me I wouldnt amount to anything. Something I have leanred to control but I am not perfect enough to rid of. I work hard and do not do drugs, we have a wonderful home in a place most call yuppieville bc I busted my rear. But I could have just as easily been either one of these mothers. I am not a fool tot hink I never will face this type of lonliness, but to judge is a disgrace. Not everyone is dealt a great hand in the world. Sometimes the fight to change the hand you were dealt is beoynd yourself. I hope for these twins that they find strength, that they use their own failures and the failures of their mother as a good reason to make change. They r not alone, mothers struggle each day to survive mothering children in this world. I do it without my mother, she is still s drug addict. I am a picture of a survivor and still each day I struggle, even though I have never been addicted or had a drug in control of me and my life. I suffer and I struggle, I am no better then these mothers, I am just lucky something or somebosy has given me the strength to fight for something better. Shame on you for judging. As I am sure there is plenty you have shoved in your own closet! Bless these mothers for sharing their story with one million viewers. Some of which may have needed to hear they were not alone. First I think it's great that you have taken the high road! I applaud any one who fights to over come the crap hand they are dealt instead of laying down and giving up or choosing to live a life that makes the problems worse. (even if you don't like me ;-) ) Believe me I am not one of the lucky few that had a charmed life....But no matter what you say, you will never get me to believe that people are not better than this. Every one has choices and unless you are still a child or mentally ill in some way, you can choose not to live up to your parents legacy. You know we all have choices, you said it in your post; you chose not to take the easy way - you "busted your rear". Just for the record I don't believe you could have been just like these women you've already proved it. Don't worry about how close you came ...be proud of what you accomplished. I'm sorry but most of the problems the people in this country face is because we have become to complacent; to "PC". Someone whines about how bad they had it and we go ... awwww the poor thing it's not their fault and let them get away with what ever awful crap they want. It needs to stop. People need to stand up and act like adults, start taking responsibility, if you have bad parents stand up and say-- you no longer define who I am and you no longer control how I see myself- I am worth more than what you did to me and I deserve better than what you can give me. If you had bad things happen to you, stand up brush yourself off take back what ever was taken from you and live a good life (Living well really is the best revenge) You don't lay down and play the victim whining about it for the rest of your life and you most certainly don't pop pills and abuse your own kids. (all that does is allows the "bad guy" to win.) That's what makes me mad about the whole issue.... people complain about what went wrong in their lives or about some awful thing that happened to them but instead of learning from it they turn around and become the very thing they hate or do to their kids what was done to them. It makes no sense and it ticks me off. So, sorry my post bothered you but I stand by what I said. People are better than this and if I'm wrong and we're really not capable of morality, honor, strength, intelligence, honesty, doing the right thing even if it's the hard thing, then what's the point? If it's not true then why should Dr. Phil keep trying to help? Why Should I and people like me who still have faith in humanity continue to care??? And if we do quit caring and just roll over and play dead; what kind of world do you think that will be?? ~Nixi
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February 6, 2008, 9:05 pm PST
Quote From: motherwifeof3 I did it too! My mom didnt give a flip, she was a drug addict and I was a lost child. Three children and three marriages later I am not hooked on drugs. I do take Zanex to sleep bc I am so hard on myself I suffer from severe insomnia, a result of my mother constantly telling me I wouldnt amount to anything. Something I have leanred to control but I am not perfect enough to rid of. I work hard and do not do drugs, we have a wonderful home in a place most call yuppieville bc I busted my rear. But I could have just as easily been either one of these mothers. I am not a fool tot hink I never will face this type of lonliness, but to judge is a disgrace. Not everyone is dealt a great hand in the world. Sometimes the fight to change the hand you were dealt is beoynd yourself. I hope for these twins that they find strength, that they use their own failures and the failures of their mother as a good reason to make change. They r not alone, mothers struggle each day to survive mothering children in this world. I do it without my mother, she is still s drug addict. I am a picture of a survivor and still each day I struggle, even though I have never been addicted or had a drug in control of me and my life. I suffer and I struggle, I am no better then these mothers, I am just lucky something or somebosy has given me the strength to fight for something better. Shame on you for judging. As I am sure there is plenty you have shoved in your own closet! Bless these mothers for sharing their story with one million viewers. Some of which may have needed to hear they were not alone. I think the reason one twin got so angry was how everyone was responding. No one there seemed to have any compassion. I know the sister that called in started to say her sister was a good person but was not being a good parent at the time. I think that is what she was starting to say and the audience was not having it have way out of her mouth saying she is good she stopped and said she was not a good mother. Then need to be reminded they are good people who may try to and want to do right by the kids but are having trouble doing it bc of the drugs. If they can get off the drugs they will do just what they want and it will make them happier. I am a single mother of 3 and I have several addicts in my large family that has come from growing up in a sexual physical and mental abusive house. I also am suppose to take meds. I don't bc I am afraid of becoming an addict. My family is no help. Some have died some are too addicted to make any sense and Drs and therapist tell me I need the med take them. So after fighting them for about 6 years now and taking some them stopping and trying others and stooping or never really taking the full amount if I did it and became addicted I would hate to run into this judgmental person and would hope to run into someone with compassion like you...... |
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