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July 29, 2005, 8:35 am PDT
 Quote From: momisme2 Hmmmm... now I cant seem to correct the title headers either. I meant to say Not over it or big heart? And I still cant figure out the paragraphs!(you have paragraphs. Fill me in on how you do them?) So far im not a fan of this new format. LOL
Back to the subject... I personally think that when people suffer it makes them more aware of others feelings. You often find those who have suffered greatly are incredibly compassionate and caring and quite in tune with others. There are those who seem to harden because of it but I think they are the minority. In my experiences, the more people suffer the more compassion they have towards others. They have been hurt and do not wish the same on anyone.
I am like you in feeling quite bad when I see or hear certain things on the news. It really effects me. Even to the point where I wont watch much news and make my husband fill me in on whats going on while he buffers for me. Often times it effects me physically, not just emotionally. More then a few times I have run to the bathroom literally sick over what I have just seen. There are even a few Dr. Phil episodes I wont watch. Course, then I feel like a coward for a bit, but always tell myself it isnt worth it to put myself through that.
So... hyper vigilant? Could be. But I lean more towards we just have stronger emotional reactions because of our pasts. And I dont necesarily think that is a bad thing. I would prefer stronger emotions then none at all. :) Ok, now I am frustrated. That dang 20 minute rule screwed up the message I was writing and now I am starting over. They will need to create a new board for all the members who feel like fools for having such a hard time with this new format. Maybe my username should have been dumb blonde cause I have so much trouble. I will keep trying to re register my old name, maybe with my DH help I can figure it out. I'm all for learning new things but it would be nice if they got the kinks out before we fried our brains trying to figure out things that don't even work. Momisme2 you had paragraphs in one of your posts, I just double space like before.
Now if I don't get bumped off cause I take too long to post I want to comment on why we are compassionate with others who have been put thru hell. I find I have lots of compassion and empathy for people. Is it because of things I went thru? Probably but what about the people who get abused and then turn around and hurt someone else the same way? I find it really weird that while some people learn from what happened to them and would never hurt another person other people turn out to be the same as their abuser. My father was an alcoholic and the things our fammily went thru because of it made me want to never put my family thru it. I can not tolerate drunk people because of it. So why is it some go completely opposite and stay away from anything related to their abuse while others go right the same direction and still others aren't really effected by it? |
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