Replies to '10/07 The Latest Debates'

*Hugs* Again, it's something you just can't understand until you've been a mom. I try very hard to keep my kids from acting up in public, but just because a tantrum could come at any time from a 2-year-old doesn't mean I'm going to stay home all the time. When i see a mom whose child is having a tantrum, I see what I can do to help. I was at a coffee shop once, and a mom was laden with packages and trying to get her 2-year-old out the door. The little girl just kept running away, giggling, the mom didn't want to put her packages down, but she finally dropped them all over the place to catch her 2-year-old. People just sat there and gave disapproving looks, no one offered to help. I asked her if I could help carry her packages to the car, she gave me a grateful look and said yes, I smiled at the little girl and engaged her some (I didn't offer to hold her hand, because I felt that would be inappropriate, so I took the packages while the mom took care of her child), and I helped her get out to the car. Everyone else got to return to their quiet lunches. I have BTDT too many times, and my kids don't even have any kind of mental illness or disability! Kids are kids, and most parents are doing the best they can. There are some who don't teach their kids boundaries, or who drag their kids around far beyond what is reasonable to expect from a tired and hungry child, but sometimes it's just beyond your control.

I would just like to clarify where I was coming from.  I definitely understand there are all kinds of dissabilities and illnesses that can contribute to a child's behaviour.  I was not at all trying to attack mentally ill children or their parents.   

      Carla, the mom of 3, never mentioned an illness being the reason she could not control her children, that is not what the topic of the show was on.  I am simply saying in general there are too many parents this day in age that allow their children to throw fits in public and not do anything about it, yet they will be standing right there.  Carla even stated on the show that after a while she "tunes out her children".  Again, my whole issue with her is that she had this attitude of, "how dare you" to anyone who would say a word to her children, she openly admits she can't control 3 children, and yet she is pregnant with a 4th.     

     Also, I don't believe God just blesses people with well behaved children....it's taken many times of removing my child from a situation and pleanty of sleepless nights to begin to have a well behaved child.