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February 9, 2008, 11:38 am PST

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I'm eager to see the upcoming show too.  Everytime I see the commercials I wonder if my mother is watching the same commercial.  My story is the same, except that it was my biological father and he was a police officer.  I told my mother the first time it happened at the age of 8, she pulled my hair and scolded me saying that it happened in his sleep and that he thought I was her.  The abuse continued and got worse.  5 years later when she found out he was having an affair with an 18 year old, I told her again.  This time she was willing to believe me.  We went down to the police station and I told my story to a room full of police officers and the chief of police, it was all tape recorded.  What a way to spend my 13th birthday.  Two weeks later my dad was severely depressed and suicidal talked my mother into forgiving him.  She was able to talk the chief of police into dropping the rape charges if my father agreed to resign and leave town quietly.  At the age of 13, I was left with no one else to turn.  To this day my mother says that he did this in his sleep and thought I was her, even though he has admitted it all to her.  They are still together.  My brothers have both allowed their daughters to spend the night over at their house.  My mother has taken babysitting jobs for little girls.  And I have moved thousands of miles away.  I married at 19, I'm still married and I thank God for allowing me to move far away and for helping me to survive.  My mother has never apologized and feels I'm unforgiving and need to let go of the past.  I forgive, but some things you just can't forget.  

I hear so much of this happening these days, that I don't trust men at all.  It is too bad but I don't like most of them and fear that they have one thing on their minds.  I've never wanted children and never been pregnant by choice.  I've never had the family abuse but I've seen how sick the world is and don't care to bring kids into it.  I just refuse to deal with these same old problems.  Your mother is insecure and has an awfully big ego and think that her husband thought of her while this was going on.  I also think it's interesting that people demand one partner and their total loyalty, while in other ways they are no different than animals, and they probably met and based their relationship on sexual terms.   Although I was married for 14 years, my husband had other priorities, which is why I married him.  He had so many interests.   I have been a widow and single since age 38, am now 51, have lived alone since then, and OK with it.   I may find someone, but not more the most part excited about what is out there.
 
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February 10, 2008, 4:56 pm PST

02/13 Behind Closed Doors

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I'm eager to see the upcoming show too.  Everytime I see the commercials I wonder if my mother is watching the same commercial.  My story is the same, except that it was my biological father and he was a police officer.  I told my mother the first time it happened at the age of 8, she pulled my hair and scolded me saying that it happened in his sleep and that he thought I was her.  The abuse continued and got worse.  5 years later when she found out he was having an affair with an 18 year old, I told her again.  This time she was willing to believe me.  We went down to the police station and I told my story to a room full of police officers and the chief of police, it was all tape recorded.  What a way to spend my 13th birthday.  Two weeks later my dad was severely depressed and suicidal talked my mother into forgiving him.  She was able to talk the chief of police into dropping the rape charges if my father agreed to resign and leave town quietly.  At the age of 13, I was left with no one else to turn.  To this day my mother says that he did this in his sleep and thought I was her, even though he has admitted it all to her.  They are still together.  My brothers have both allowed their daughters to spend the night over at their house.  My mother has taken babysitting jobs for little girls.  And I have moved thousands of miles away.  I married at 19, I'm still married and I thank God for allowing me to move far away and for helping me to survive.  My mother has never apologized and feels I'm unforgiving and need to let go of the past.  I forgive, but some things you just can't forget.  

     It seems like you were done wrong at every turn you made as a child. You can make sure that it never happens to any of your children. And make sure they know that they can always count on you to be on their side.

 
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February 13, 2008, 1:41 pm PST

02/13 Behind Closed Doors

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I'm eager to see the upcoming show too.  Everytime I see the commercials I wonder if my mother is watching the same commercial.  My story is the same, except that it was my biological father and he was a police officer.  I told my mother the first time it happened at the age of 8, she pulled my hair and scolded me saying that it happened in his sleep and that he thought I was her.  The abuse continued and got worse.  5 years later when she found out he was having an affair with an 18 year old, I told her again.  This time she was willing to believe me.  We went down to the police station and I told my story to a room full of police officers and the chief of police, it was all tape recorded.  What a way to spend my 13th birthday.  Two weeks later my dad was severely depressed and suicidal talked my mother into forgiving him.  She was able to talk the chief of police into dropping the rape charges if my father agreed to resign and leave town quietly.  At the age of 13, I was left with no one else to turn.  To this day my mother says that he did this in his sleep and thought I was her, even though he has admitted it all to her.  They are still together.  My brothers have both allowed their daughters to spend the night over at their house.  My mother has taken babysitting jobs for little girls.  And I have moved thousands of miles away.  I married at 19, I'm still married and I thank God for allowing me to move far away and for helping me to survive.  My mother has never apologized and feels I'm unforgiving and need to let go of the past.  I forgive, but some things you just can't forget.  

I hope you never go on Dr. Phil... I'm sure he would say that it was impossible that (a) your father was a police officer, and (b) impossible that you told the story to a room full of police offers. 
 
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February 13, 2008, 3:36 pm PST

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I'm eager to see the upcoming show too.  Everytime I see the commercials I wonder if my mother is watching the same commercial.  My story is the same, except that it was my biological father and he was a police officer.  I told my mother the first time it happened at the age of 8, she pulled my hair and scolded me saying that it happened in his sleep and that he thought I was her.  The abuse continued and got worse.  5 years later when she found out he was having an affair with an 18 year old, I told her again.  This time she was willing to believe me.  We went down to the police station and I told my story to a room full of police officers and the chief of police, it was all tape recorded.  What a way to spend my 13th birthday.  Two weeks later my dad was severely depressed and suicidal talked my mother into forgiving him.  She was able to talk the chief of police into dropping the rape charges if my father agreed to resign and leave town quietly.  At the age of 13, I was left with no one else to turn.  To this day my mother says that he did this in his sleep and thought I was her, even though he has admitted it all to her.  They are still together.  My brothers have both allowed their daughters to spend the night over at their house.  My mother has taken babysitting jobs for little girls.  And I have moved thousands of miles away.  I married at 19, I'm still married and I thank God for allowing me to move far away and for helping me to survive.  My mother has never apologized and feels I'm unforgiving and need to let go of the past.  I forgive, but some things you just can't forget.  

I too was molested by my stepfather from around age 7, i am now 45 and have never blamed my mother for what happened too me.  People are put into situitstions that they have no control of.  I really dont know if my mother knows what happened or not, I will never ask her let along be so selfish as too torment her with something that was out of her control.  I love my mother and that is all there is too it, I dont want her too hurt because i did, how can bringing pain on someone else ever help anyone.  She should belive and love her mother if for nothing else giving her life.  I agree she should just get over it, life goes on we cant live in the past  I dont, i wont and i dont need anyone too blame its a sad thing too forgive your molester, i would never do that, come on woman you just want too make your mother miserable forgiveher and be happy.

 
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February 16, 2008, 8:44 am PST

REPORT HARASSMENT AND ABUSE BY LAW-ENFORCEMENT

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I'm eager to see the upcoming show too.  Everytime I see the commercials I wonder if my mother is watching the same commercial.  My story is the same, except that it was my biological father and he was a police officer.  I told my mother the first time it happened at the age of 8, she pulled my hair and scolded me saying that it happened in his sleep and that he thought I was her.  The abuse continued and got worse.  5 years later when she found out he was having an affair with an 18 year old, I told her again.  This time she was willing to believe me.  We went down to the police station and I told my story to a room full of police officers and the chief of police, it was all tape recorded.  What a way to spend my 13th birthday.  Two weeks later my dad was severely depressed and suicidal talked my mother into forgiving him.  She was able to talk the chief of police into dropping the rape charges if my father agreed to resign and leave town quietly.  At the age of 13, I was left with no one else to turn.  To this day my mother says that he did this in his sleep and thought I was her, even though he has admitted it all to her.  They are still together.  My brothers have both allowed their daughters to spend the night over at their house.  My mother has taken babysitting jobs for little girls.  And I have moved thousands of miles away.  I married at 19, I'm still married and I thank God for allowing me to move far away and for helping me to survive.  My mother has never apologized and feels I'm unforgiving and need to let go of the past.  I forgive, but some things you just can't forget.  

While most officers are hardworking professionals, far too many are downright abusive.  Knowing your rights is an important first line of defense against harassment and abuse by law-enforcement.  As an advocate for civil rights and police accountability, it is quite disturbing to know that such gross misconduct still comes easily to some officers.  To protect yourself and your constitutional rights, it is very important to know your rights and make smart choices in tough situations.  To learn visit the following websites: 

 

Submit a Law Enforcement Abuse Complaint Form

www.policeabuse.com

 

Just Say No to Police Searches:

www.FlexYourRights.org

 

 

The Police Complaint Center documents and investigates alleged incidents of police abuse.  The staff consists of students, researchers, attorneys, former police officers and licensed private investigators.  The organization believes that many police organizations have done a poor job of protecting the public from abusive officers.  Their primary service is assisting victims of police misconduct with reporting complaints to appropriate enforcement agencies.  They also investigate police and sheriffs deputies that are accused of abusive behaviors.

 

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