Quote From: cassie1966Hello, I am getting married July 12, 2008. I just have a few problems with the wedding and I want to know if I am being unfair to the groom with my wishes.
I am Baptist, he is Catholic, I have agreed to marry in his church which I am not just totally thrilled about.
I have been married before, he hasn't and wants to wear a white tux ... I said if he wanted to wear white I needed to also he said because I had been married before I didn't deserve to wear white in our wedding. He is picking the place and colors for our wedding and I think I deserve to wear whatever I want, this IS MY wedding too!
Please tell me what you think, I really would like to know if I am being unfair.
My concern is that he doesn't think you "deserve" to wear white??? What does that mean......
This is your wedding as well and decisions should be mutual and all should be willing to compromise to make the other person happy. I would think that he would do anything and everything to make you happy and special on your wedding day. Sounds like he has some control issues to deal with. No offense but if he is so unwilling to make compromises and consider your feelngs and wishes on your wedding day - can't imagine what a life with this man may be like down the road. This is a huge red flag that you should not sweep under the rug.
