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February 16, 2008, 8:33 am PST

02/20 Bully Husband

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I think he LIKES her fat, that way, she wouldn't be attractive enough to leave him for someone else.  That's why he's so emotionally abusive, I think that he knows at some level that being abusive is going to drive her to eat more, and keep her fat and at home.  If she DID leave him, how many supermodels would he REALLY attract?  This is just a mirror of his own self dissatisfaction and he's not man enough to deal with his self esteem problems.  So he makes Karen deal with it, what a loser.

You're right. Many a husband will  "gripe" about his wife's excess weight. But, when she tries to lose weight, he will do everything within his power to sabotage her efforts. He's in his "comfort zone" with a fat wife. But, not with a wife who loses weight and becomes attractive to others. Then, he'll have to change. Maybe even lose his own excess weight. Or, risk losing her to someone else.
 
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February 16, 2008, 11:50 am PST

I have kind of the same problem

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I think he LIKES her fat, that way, she wouldn't be attractive enough to leave him for someone else.  That's why he's so emotionally abusive, I think that he knows at some level that being abusive is going to drive her to eat more, and keep her fat and at home.  If she DID leave him, how many supermodels would he REALLY attract?  This is just a mirror of his own self dissatisfaction and he's not man enough to deal with his self esteem problems.  So he makes Karen deal with it, what a loser.

hello there..I am really and truthly understand feeling of this woman.  because my husband did same things with me..after having baby I oput on weight...and I was around 230 pound but I am 5'10'' . I was big   but not the most ugly. Now I am weighting 177 and I am still not good enoght for him.

I am modeling sometimes. And for him it not enoght to acceped me as a good looking woman . I am not perfect. But I dont think I should to have a bonus from him. We never was closer seance I get pregnant. So...I dont think something really wrong with me or with this woman on Dr.Phill show.he has big problem. So dear..Be smart. And movied on. Make yourself happy. Make yourself healthy. Dont think somebody else can do it for you. Just you. and this is your life. Sorry for my English!

I am from Ukraine. But now I am in Canada! Good luck!

 
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February 17, 2008, 12:40 pm PST

What a bully!

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I think he LIKES her fat, that way, she wouldn't be attractive enough to leave him for someone else.  That's why he's so emotionally abusive, I think that he knows at some level that being abusive is going to drive her to eat more, and keep her fat and at home.  If she DID leave him, how many supermodels would he REALLY attract?  This is just a mirror of his own self dissatisfaction and he's not man enough to deal with his self esteem problems.  So he makes Karen deal with it, what a loser.

I agree, what a jerk! Give him a taste of his own medicine! Get rid of the guy, build up your self-esteem

and lose the weight and find the kids a new HOT daddy!! Ha!

 
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February 19, 2008, 10:36 pm PST

Bingo!

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I think he LIKES her fat, that way, she wouldn't be attractive enough to leave him for someone else.  That's why he's so emotionally abusive, I think that he knows at some level that being abusive is going to drive her to eat more, and keep her fat and at home.  If she DID leave him, how many supermodels would he REALLY attract?  This is just a mirror of his own self dissatisfaction and he's not man enough to deal with his self esteem problems.  So he makes Karen deal with it, what a loser.

I think you hit the nail on the head here & in reality they're all just cowards using verbal abuse as a means of control.  It's sad & angering all at the same time.
 
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February 20, 2008, 2:42 pm PST

02/20 Bully Husband

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I think he LIKES her fat, that way, she wouldn't be attractive enough to leave him for someone else.  That's why he's so emotionally abusive, I think that he knows at some level that being abusive is going to drive her to eat more, and keep her fat and at home.  If she DID leave him, how many supermodels would he REALLY attract?  This is just a mirror of his own self dissatisfaction and he's not man enough to deal with his self esteem problems.  So he makes Karen deal with it, what a loser.

 He is a DUD!!  She is a beautiful woman, there are probably a lot of men that would love to have her and her commitment.  He doesn't deserve her, he is abusive and thinks too much of himself.  A descent women wouldn't have him., I feel sorry for her.
 
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February 21, 2008, 8:40 am PST

good point! Mirrored images*

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I think he LIKES her fat, that way, she wouldn't be attractive enough to leave him for someone else.  That's why he's so emotionally abusive, I think that he knows at some level that being abusive is going to drive her to eat more, and keep her fat and at home.  If she DID leave him, how many supermodels would he REALLY attract?  This is just a mirror of his own self dissatisfaction and he's not man enough to deal with his self esteem problems.  So he makes Karen deal with it, what a loser.

I have seen this type of behavior exhibited whereas the person doing the insulting/demeaning, degrading are actually the ones with the low self esteem problem themselves.

 

This is really a dysfunctional relationship that he is a having with himself and a bringing the family that he claims to love so much, into the mix...

 

I pray that the counseling that Dr. Phil is providing will help...who knows?, "One should never say never."

 

A bit of spiritual support wouldn't hurt them both as well...anytime God is brought into the mix, miracles do happen.

 

Those are my thoughts

May You All Be Blessed

Love, Light and Peace

Tonie

 
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July 13, 2008, 6:23 pm PDT

Totally agree

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I think he LIKES her fat, that way, she wouldn't be attractive enough to leave him for someone else.  That's why he's so emotionally abusive, I think that he knows at some level that being abusive is going to drive her to eat more, and keep her fat and at home.  If she DID leave him, how many supermodels would he REALLY attract?  This is just a mirror of his own self dissatisfaction and he's not man enough to deal with his self esteem problems.  So he makes Karen deal with it, what a loser.

I totally agree.  More than likely he is doing this to make her eat more because he doesnt want no one else looking at her.  OR he is just afraid,if she does lose the weight, she may just get the courage to leave  and may not stay at home.  What a jerk!!  Some of these men are just very stupid and insecure with themselves.
 


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