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February 20, 2008, 6:52 pm PST
 Quote From: jlb2551 I don't want to sound insensitive to Karen, but she does not need to be rescued,she needs to rescue herself and know her self worth. Her children will grow up thinking that a "knight in shinning armor" will save the day. She has to save herself and her children. They will have a role model to look up to and immulate. Never having to take abuse from any man for any reason. I do hope Dr. Phil won't offer any help to this horrible man, he is so mean and evil and no, I don't care what his childhood was like. When you grow up, (despite your childhood,) there comes a time to say "I will never live that life again and it changes with me !" How does one not know if they were happy or not in childhood? That is just an excuse to treat others with intense cruelty and get by with it ! Kick his fat ass to the curb,Karen and you and your girls go live a happy life! You do not need a man to validate your existence. One day, you will meet someone that YOU want to share a life with but only after you know yourself well enough and feel strong in who you are. I'm sure you are a beautiful, loving and caring woman. Apparently the other quote to this message was from a friend/aquaintance of Karen's. In my opinion what Karen needs most right now is not another man to rescue her, she needs to Kick JACKASS to the curb, try to find herself and learn that she is valuable as her own woman, without validation from any man. When she really learns this thru counseling etc... she won't ever let this happen again. We can all look back on mistakes that we have made in our lives and yes, they are painful and sometimes humiliating, but wow, can we learn from them. Unfortunetly this is not just effecting Karen, it is having a profound effect on her children. Can you believe what this nasty evil man has subjected his children too and unfortunetly Karen has not defended them. She needs to protect them even if she can't "wrap her brain" around her own abuse. Rick is the one that needs extreme counseling and intervention. He has been the worst kind of Father to his children and I hope that somehow it is worked out for the children to end up having as little contact with him as possible unless he undergoes a complete brain reconstruction. Back to my point, Karen needs to find herself (by herself ) before she should look for the next man. She just needs to know that she is an incredible woman with or without a man to validate her (or in this case belittle her) - then she will have a chance at a healthy relationship. |
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