Quote From: profmaryannITA with the sentiment that WAY too much emphasis has been put on the "wedding day" (read "party to repay every social obligation you and your parents have incurred in the last 25 years"), and not nearly enough on the marriage to follow.
When did "bridezilla" become part of our vocabulary? I don't recall hearing it until probably somewhere about the time that the average cost for a wedding & reception approached more money than the cost of a new minivan. With so much money changing hands in the process (and who knows how much of it borrowed) in an effort to re-create something seen on a soap opera or in a celebrity rag, there is a LOT of pressure to have the "perfect" day.
Both these young ladies need a reality check, ASAP. Janae needs to look critically at her behavior leading up to the wedding. I am not excusing Michael's inappropriate coping tactic. However, what was he struggling to cope with?? To re-state another poster, Angela's behavior regarding the wedding is BEYOND narcissistic. If this is her attitude going into the wedding, the marriage doesn't stand much of a chance, IMO.
Prof
I think the pressure to have the perfect day is bred from the bride herself. Bridezillas need to remember that the wedding is for people who attend and participate, not an excuse for egocentricsism. All these temper tantrums and extravagance for ONE day out of your life. That's it.
It's a privilege, not a right to have people in and at your wedding. You have to be yourself and treat people the way you would want to be treated. If you act like a 3 year-old, no one is going to want to babysit you- or come to your wedding. Remember Stephanie, on the Rules of Engagement? She's driving him off by being demanding- "I wanted cheese fries, and he got me Mozzerella sticks"- please! She also put off everyone around her. You're wedding is going to be empty if you're not careful....
