Replies to '12/28 Wifestyles'

First, I think that to come on here and feign yourself as a watcher and not the actual guest is cowardly.  You need to own what you said and how you feel, not disguise yourself.  That is just plain dishonest. 

Second, in saying what you said about Diana, you have just slapped your own wife in the face, as you have so many times in the past and on the show yesterday.  You used very clear and concise language (I would expect nothing less from an engineer) and used all the nice words, but the bottom line is that you feel Diane is your perfect vision of a wife and Kelly is not.  Once again, you have completely degraded and belittled your wife, hoping no one would know. 

I don't need to see the whole story (as you so adamantly claim) to determine this.  I base my opinions on what I do know: what you said on the show, what you have posted on here, what Kelly said but more importantly, what her eyes said.  Her eyes were lifeless.  There was no fire in them.  They were empty.  Emotionally, she is empty.  Don't you see that?  Don't you see that YOUR actions are what is causing her to feel that way?  Don't you see that YOUR actions are going to cause your children to have low self esteem and look for that self esteem and validation in places you never imagined?  They see how you treat their mother and they are learning that is how they should be treated and how they should treat others.   

I cannot imagine living with a man who told me I was mediocre, constantly told me I wasn't good enough, didn't clean well enough, didn't dress sexy enough, etc.  But then, from your posts, it is obvious that you don't think you have done anything wrong.  Nothing Dr. Phil or anyone else has said, has sunk in to you.  You are an abuser.  You may not leave physical scars, but the emotional ones you are creating will last forever.  How can you even live with yourself?   

I am a military wife and sometimes my kids and I have to go long periods of time without my husband, anywhere from 4 months to over a year at a time.  Never once would he ever dream of coming home after work locally or from a desert deployment with a critical spirit.  He's too much of a man for that and values his family too much to worry if the cupboards are cluttered or if there are dishes in the sink.  We are the lights of his life, his reason for being here, as he tells us almost daily.  Can your wife say you feel the same about her?  Wouldn't it be nice if she could?  Think about it.   

I am truly sad for you and Kelly.  I hope you can someday learn to cherish her because someday, she just might not be there.