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February 18, 2008, 6:47 pm PST

02/22 Hell Weddings

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Weddings are just a way of celebrating with friends and family your love and committment to each other.  I understand dream weddings, I had one myself. In fact, I had two weddings. My first one was absolutely beautiful, but 3 months later, the marriage went sour. My second wedding is still laughable till this day, but the marriage is wonderful. The wedding was plagued with everything imaginable. The cake was picked up by one of the bridesmaids in an effort to save money, but she left it in her car throughout the ceremony and it had to be rebuilt and refrigerated before it could be bought out. The musicians never showed at the church so we had to find a song for the procession. Try using the same song for the bridesmaids, bride and unity candle ceremony. The bartender forgot the date, so we had to get my son to tend bar. However, the food was awesome and the DJ magnificent, and the best part of the deal was the man I got. The best in the world. Moral...we put too much importance on the wedding and not enough on the marriage.

 To the woman whose groom passed out after saying "I do", well, he married you first (smile). So, go back and have another ceremony, now that the hard part is out of the way, have fun. 

Your second wedding and mine both! LOL

 

My plagues included the original matron of honor cancelling out owing to personal reasons (luckily there was time to ask someone else), the mother, daughter, and niece of the bride all coming down with food poisoning the morning of the ceremony (my niece hurled in the church), and the wedding being delayed for an hour b/c the mother of the groom was involved in a car accident en route to the church. Fortunately, nobody was injured, the investigating trooper met up with my new MIL after the ceremony (he pulled in as we were recessing!), the reception folks were gracious about the delay, and all was well that ended well. Like you, the man I got was the best part of the deal. =)

 

ITA with your moral of the story.

 

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February 19, 2008, 8:54 am PST

Great Point!

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Weddings are just a way of celebrating with friends and family your love and committment to each other.  I understand dream weddings, I had one myself. In fact, I had two weddings. My first one was absolutely beautiful, but 3 months later, the marriage went sour. My second wedding is still laughable till this day, but the marriage is wonderful. The wedding was plagued with everything imaginable. The cake was picked up by one of the bridesmaids in an effort to save money, but she left it in her car throughout the ceremony and it had to be rebuilt and refrigerated before it could be bought out. The musicians never showed at the church so we had to find a song for the procession. Try using the same song for the bridesmaids, bride and unity candle ceremony. The bartender forgot the date, so we had to get my son to tend bar. However, the food was awesome and the DJ magnificent, and the best part of the deal was the man I got. The best in the world. Moral...we put too much importance on the wedding and not enough on the marriage.

 To the woman whose groom passed out after saying "I do", well, he married you first (smile). So, go back and have another ceremony, now that the hard part is out of the way, have fun. 

 

 

"..put too much importance on the wedding and

    not enough on the marriage"

 

INSTEAD OF BRIDES THINKING ABOUT THE REST OF THEIR LIVES...

THEY CHOOSE TO CONCERN THEMSELVES WITH WHAT OTHERS WILL THINK?????????

 

SOME ACT AS THOUGH THEY'RE THE FIRST TWO PEOPLE - EVER- TO HAVE A WEDDING????

 

DON'T GET IT...

 

GOOD FOR YOUR POSITIVE ATTITUDE AND REALIZING WHAT REALLY MATTERS.

 
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February 22, 2008, 9:05 am PST

I so agree...

Quote From: gctate

Weddings are just a way of celebrating with friends and family your love and committment to each other.  I understand dream weddings, I had one myself. In fact, I had two weddings. My first one was absolutely beautiful, but 3 months later, the marriage went sour. My second wedding is still laughable till this day, but the marriage is wonderful. The wedding was plagued with everything imaginable. The cake was picked up by one of the bridesmaids in an effort to save money, but she left it in her car throughout the ceremony and it had to be rebuilt and refrigerated before it could be bought out. The musicians never showed at the church so we had to find a song for the procession. Try using the same song for the bridesmaids, bride and unity candle ceremony. The bartender forgot the date, so we had to get my son to tend bar. However, the food was awesome and the DJ magnificent, and the best part of the deal was the man I got. The best in the world. Moral...we put too much importance on the wedding and not enough on the marriage.

 To the woman whose groom passed out after saying "I do", well, he married you first (smile). So, go back and have another ceremony, now that the hard part is out of the way, have fun. 

Good for you that you know what's really important!

 

The wedding was awful for the first couple, but the marriage seems to be a good one...she does need to get over the whole thing and go on with life. Those were but a few short moments in the grand scheme of things!

 

With the second couple, she needs to learn the meaning of respect towards this man with whom she's going to (hopefully) spend the rest of her life. Does she really want  a man who never speaks up for himself? Or does she want a partner

 

I'm a little concerned over the physical violence that was mentioned by these two....(a baseball bat? Not a good sign!) Once you cross that line, it's easier the next time.

 

Please visit my website WWW.NONONSENSEGRAMMYTREE.BLOGSPOT.COM and click on the article "But I Love Him"...maybe it will give some insight to those of you planning a wedding.

 
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February 22, 2008, 9:51 am PST

02/22 Hell Weddings

Quote From: gctate

Weddings are just a way of celebrating with friends and family your love and committment to each other.  I understand dream weddings, I had one myself. In fact, I had two weddings. My first one was absolutely beautiful, but 3 months later, the marriage went sour. My second wedding is still laughable till this day, but the marriage is wonderful. The wedding was plagued with everything imaginable. The cake was picked up by one of the bridesmaids in an effort to save money, but she left it in her car throughout the ceremony and it had to be rebuilt and refrigerated before it could be bought out. The musicians never showed at the church so we had to find a song for the procession. Try using the same song for the bridesmaids, bride and unity candle ceremony. The bartender forgot the date, so we had to get my son to tend bar. However, the food was awesome and the DJ magnificent, and the best part of the deal was the man I got. The best in the world. Moral...we put too much importance on the wedding and not enough on the marriage.

 To the woman whose groom passed out after saying "I do", well, he married you first (smile). So, go back and have another ceremony, now that the hard part is out of the way, have fun. 

I agree with you, even if the celebration turns out to be just the two of you.

I've only had one wedding. It was planned 1 1/2 times. One half by my mother and once by me and my fiance. At the point where mom was picking out my flowers (after choosing the colors, the site, the bridesmaids, and their dresses) I called my soon-to-be husband and said, "I'm coming down there, make arrangements at the base chapel". So, it was us, the chaplain, a neighbor I had met two weeks before, and 5 people he knew from his tech class at the base. There would have been an organist but he chose that morning to commit suicide and at that time you couldn't just run out and get a tape player, so there was no music at all. The reception was everyone but the chaplain, a bottle of Jim Beam and two bottles of Coke.

The marriage, on the other hand, lasted 31 years. We went through better, worse, richer, poorer, sickness and health till death did we part. We got it all in and the farther we got from the wedding the less it mattered.

I don't know if I'll ever marry again. If I can have friends and family around, it will be a bonus. But really, when you say it's your day it's both of your day and everyone else just adds to the fun. So make it FUN.
 


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