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October 12, 2005, 7:51 pm PDT
10/10 Wifestyles
Quote From: gallenI think I understand the crux of what you are saying in your post.
I didn't see where you say if both of you are working, or both of you are out of work...
I don't think that just because she is a woman, my wife must stay at home and be responsible for the household duties. We decided to structure our lives that way. I committed to make sure that she had a home to raise our children in, give her every tool she needed to do her job, and support her with her work. All I was saying is that duties can be divided up according to what works for any two people. We need not be tied to traditional gender roles. For some couples the tradtional division of labour (women doing domestic duties, while men work outside the home) may be what works best- and for them- that's great.
Then I made reference to the specific guest who said wives SHOULD behave as she does. . .I think no one has the right to say what others SHOULD do.
Because you asked, in my relationship, we have been taking turns: one of us working, the other in graduate school, and because we both hate cleaning- we have a cleaning person come in every 2 weeks to do the hard stuff. We keep renegotiating the duties, as our lives continue to evolve.
To decree the proper duties of a wife is just nonsense- each wife is different and each relationship is different.
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