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August 4, 2005, 6:07 am PDT

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I am an obese woman who has had stomach stapling four years ago, I am 51 mother of four, grandmother of eight. 280 pounds. My parents both died young, Mom 66, Dad 55, My brother last year 46. I come from a family all obese.I have five sisters four obese, one thin as a rail. I fear that if I cannot get it right in my head on what to do that I will die soon, I have MS, and this has limited me in many ways. I suffer from severe depression all the time and am taking all kinds of medications for depression and fro my MS. Including Rebif injection three times a week. Is there any help for me, I feel miserable , very lonely, I live isolated as I feel that I am unworthy of friends, or even a loving relationship with my husband. I have been married to him for 34 years, but he basically lives his own lie traveling the world as a missionary, leaving me to fend for myself for months at a time.He is very controlling women he is at home. I grew up in a very strict Christan home where i WAS TAUGHT THAT THE MAN IS THE HEAD OF THE HOUSE. and the woman is obedient to the man.So is there any hope for an obese woman who doesn't want to die young.

Hi there,

 

I just now saw your post and I am very sorry for not replying to you sooner!!!!! I would love to chat with you!! I wanted to send you a private e-mail, or send you regular e-mail, but I didn't see any way of doing it, so I figured I would do it this way.

 

I am in the same situation that you are when it comes to being overweight and depressed!! I just went to my Dr and I weight 294 pounds. So I also have a lot to lose as well!! I am also on mediciation for depression. I was told that I have severe Depression, or either Major depression..which ever is worse thats the one I have! I think they both sound about the same, but could be wrong.

 

I also do not feel worthy and that's not good for either one of us!  So I know what you are going through!

 

I also lost my grandparents last yr and this yr. They raised me. Daddy (Grandpa) died in March of this yr, and Grandma died last yr.

 

CONGRATS for being married for so long to the same man!!!!!! :) My husband and I have been married now for 20 yrs. I also grew up and believe that the "man is the head of the house, and that the woman is to submit herself unto her own husband" It is also in the bible. This is the way that I still believe, but my husband is not very controlling! He pays the bills, we talk about many things, but the final decision is his to make...but I always let him know how I feel, and he takes my feelings into consideration!  He is not a Missionary, and even though we do not attend church on a regular basis, we still still believe this way, because this is the way we were both raised.

 

Have you ever thought of going with your husband? Or will he not let you? Just curious! :)

 

I am getting ready to turn 38, and I know what you mean! I do not want to die young either!!!! How about you and I getting together and writing each other? Feel up to it? Because personally, I feel like everyone needs a friend to talk to, or to just laugh with, or even to cry on their shoulder! That's what friends are for, and hey..I know I could use some friends and would love to be your friend!! :)

 

Don't worry, I have low self esteem also. I have had it all my life, and still do! Maybe we can work on this together and help each other out...maybe we can even help each other with losing this weight we have on us! :) Hey, I'm willing if you are!!! :)

 

You know, about our husband's. I also feel unworthy when it comes to mine as well, but hey, there must be something about you that he loves, or he wouldn't have married you!! :)

 

Audry@ec.rr.com send me an e-mail, and let's become friends with each other! I know that we can do this together!! :)

 

Love & Hugs,

Audry
 
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February 10, 2006, 1:28 pm PST

open the book

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I am an obese woman who has had stomach stapling four years ago, I am 51 mother of four, grandmother of eight. 280 pounds. My parents both died young, Mom 66, Dad 55, My brother last year 46. I come from a family all obese.I have five sisters four obese, one thin as a rail. I fear that if I cannot get it right in my head on what to do that I will die soon, I have MS, and this has limited me in many ways. I suffer from severe depression all the time and am taking all kinds of medications for depression and fro my MS. Including Rebif injection three times a week. Is there any help for me, I feel miserable , very lonely, I live isolated as I feel that I am unworthy of friends, or even a loving relationship with my husband. I have been married to him for 34 years, but he basically lives his own lie traveling the world as a missionary, leaving me to fend for myself for months at a time.He is very controlling women he is at home. I grew up in a very strict Christan home where i WAS TAUGHT THAT THE MAN IS THE HEAD OF THE HOUSE. and the woman is obedient to the man.So is there any hope for an obese woman who doesn't want to die young.

hey there. 

  

You know that book that talks about the woman being submissive (not obedient) ? 

  

It says other things too.  Read it.  Find comfort in it.  Love your God.  Go help other people.  Volunteer your time.  Be kind to yourself and to others.  Lose yourself in what you can achieve for others every day. 

  

The weight will come off. 

  

Eat Gods food.  No preservatives, no bleach, nothing refined.  Load up on meat and veggies and eggs.  LOAD UP.  Don't batter it.........steam, pan fry and broil.  And load up.  Have a fruit every now and then or some Sara Lee Heart Healthy bread.  Eat those greens and snack on those artichokes and eat steak and eggs and drink iced tea and flavored teas.  Involve yourself in the lives of others in shelters, hospices, etc............ 

  

The weight WILL come off. 

  

I've been there and done that. 
 
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February 14, 2007, 10:42 am PST

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I am an obese woman who has had stomach stapling four years ago, I am 51 mother of four, grandmother of eight. 280 pounds. My parents both died young, Mom 66, Dad 55, My brother last year 46. I come from a family all obese.I have five sisters four obese, one thin as a rail. I fear that if I cannot get it right in my head on what to do that I will die soon, I have MS, and this has limited me in many ways. I suffer from severe depression all the time and am taking all kinds of medications for depression and fro my MS. Including Rebif injection three times a week. Is there any help for me, I feel miserable , very lonely, I live isolated as I feel that I am unworthy of friends, or even a loving relationship with my husband. I have been married to him for 34 years, but he basically lives his own lie traveling the world as a missionary, leaving me to fend for myself for months at a time.He is very controlling women he is at home. I grew up in a very strict Christan home where i WAS TAUGHT THAT THE MAN IS THE HEAD OF THE HOUSE. and the woman is obedient to the man.So is there any hope for an obese woman who doesn't want to die young.

hello

    there is always hope, ppl may not agree with what i am going to tell you but you need to get away from that man, before you will ever feel good abot yourself.  I am 46 and have been through some of the same things you have. you didn't say what happened after you had the surgery but it does sound like you didn't have much support. don't ever give up on yourself and don't ever give up yourself for someone else your post really touched my heart cuz i can feel your pain.  if you want to give me your e-mail I would love to talk to you, I wuld like to give back some of what has been given to me.  keep your chin up and if you need a friend I am here.

                                                                                                                                         tam
 
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May 11, 2007, 10:44 am PDT

there's always hope

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I am an obese woman who has had stomach stapling four years ago, I am 51 mother of four, grandmother of eight. 280 pounds. My parents both died young, Mom 66, Dad 55, My brother last year 46. I come from a family all obese.I have five sisters four obese, one thin as a rail. I fear that if I cannot get it right in my head on what to do that I will die soon, I have MS, and this has limited me in many ways. I suffer from severe depression all the time and am taking all kinds of medications for depression and fro my MS. Including Rebif injection three times a week. Is there any help for me, I feel miserable , very lonely, I live isolated as I feel that I am unworthy of friends, or even a loving relationship with my husband. I have been married to him for 34 years, but he basically lives his own lie traveling the world as a missionary, leaving me to fend for myself for months at a time.He is very controlling women he is at home. I grew up in a very strict Christan home where i WAS TAUGHT THAT THE MAN IS THE HEAD OF THE HOUSE. and the woman is obedient to the man.So is there any hope for an obese woman who doesn't want to die young.

hi

please believe me when i say that there is always hope and the god i know does not agree with the way things are in your house....god loves you and would NEVER want you to live in such missery he did not create you for misery but for love-the enemy is isolating you and making you believe lies God says that the truth will set you free and the truth lives in the bible...ask God to help you he answers prayer maybe this email is an answer to the cry of your lonely heart.  My name is Tammy at my heaviest i was 300lbs 4 yrs ago i suffered with crippling depreesion where i would not leave my home and all i did was isolate myself and eat i love food....i would also take over the counter sleeping medications so i could sleep and not face the day. i have also over come drug addiction alcoholism an abusive childhood and quit smoking-if it were not for God and the support of my wonderful church family who loved me through all of this i would not be where i am today drug free 220 lbs and losing -happily married(i use to verbally and physically abuse my husband and daughter)depression is anger turned inward....so today i pray that you rise up and start living embrace the live God has blessed you with and do not allow the enemy turn it into something miserible-haven't you suffered enough? God is waiting- reach out to him-the place to start is alone in your room and pour out your heart and soul to him cry get angry he will meet you there is nothing he doesn't already know about you-1 corinthians 13-read it-it's for you-God bless you-love your sister in Christ-Tammay

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just because everyone around you has not found freedom from obeseity doesn't mean you can't all it takes is a plan - add some faith and God will give you hope...   
 
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November 21, 2007, 5:45 am PST

Obesity

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I am an obese woman who has had stomach stapling four years ago, I am 51 mother of four, grandmother of eight. 280 pounds. My parents both died young, Mom 66, Dad 55, My brother last year 46. I come from a family all obese.I have five sisters four obese, one thin as a rail. I fear that if I cannot get it right in my head on what to do that I will die soon, I have MS, and this has limited me in many ways. I suffer from severe depression all the time and am taking all kinds of medications for depression and fro my MS. Including Rebif injection three times a week. Is there any help for me, I feel miserable , very lonely, I live isolated as I feel that I am unworthy of friends, or even a loving relationship with my husband. I have been married to him for 34 years, but he basically lives his own lie traveling the world as a missionary, leaving me to fend for myself for months at a time.He is very controlling women he is at home. I grew up in a very strict Christan home where i WAS TAUGHT THAT THE MAN IS THE HEAD OF THE HOUSE. and the woman is obedient to the man.So is there any hope for an obese woman who doesn't want to die young.

Omachris, The Christian religion teaches that there is always hope. Just call apron the lord and he will give you comfort. What is stomach stapling and has it helped you to lose weight? I’m so sorry about all your losses. My grandmother died from obesity. My mother, father, sister n brother all over weight. I’m 59 and have been over weight for 15 years. I was thin until I married a controlling man. I think we eat so we can keep our feeling stuffed down. What is a “missionary”? I weigh 240 pounds and feel miserable all the time. I have high blood pressure, high cholesterol, and high triglycerides and am diabetic. I have had a bad knee that kept me from exercising but get it fixed last month. I still can’t walk well enough to exercise yet and that is frustrating. I too suffer from severe depression all the time and am taking all kinds of medications for depression and my medical problems. I too am very lonely and live isolated feeling that I am unworthy of love n friends. I hope to hear from you. Zen
 
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March 29, 2008, 4:30 am PDT

Obesity

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I am an obese woman who has had stomach stapling four years ago, I am 51 mother of four, grandmother of eight. 280 pounds. My parents both died young, Mom 66, Dad 55, My brother last year 46. I come from a family all obese.I have five sisters four obese, one thin as a rail. I fear that if I cannot get it right in my head on what to do that I will die soon, I have MS, and this has limited me in many ways. I suffer from severe depression all the time and am taking all kinds of medications for depression and fro my MS. Including Rebif injection three times a week. Is there any help for me, I feel miserable , very lonely, I live isolated as I feel that I am unworthy of friends, or even a loving relationship with my husband. I have been married to him for 34 years, but he basically lives his own lie traveling the world as a missionary, leaving me to fend for myself for months at a time.He is very controlling women he is at home. I grew up in a very strict Christan home where i WAS TAUGHT THAT THE MAN IS THE HEAD OF THE HOUSE. and the woman is obedient to the man.So is there any hope for an obese woman who doesn't want to die young.

of course there is always a hope ^^

never give up! It must be hard to come from a obese family , to have MS and a husband traveling the world but as you came from a strict Christian home why don't you pray and belive in GOD's help? Never give up believing in GOD. Even if it's difficult to be patient and everything but be strong and you also can talk to your husband or talk to your friend about ur sorrows. I'm sure they will support you and help you :)

 

-Ferda
 
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