Quote From: motherluv1I have a daughter who is involved in an interracial relationship - she white, him black. My family has just recently learned of this relationship and are very, very disappointed, hurt, upset, and even worse - embarassed, and have no problem telling me so. Although I am not happy with the relationship - she is young - I am not embarassed by it. I am hurt and disappointed and cannot find myself to be a part of this type of situation, but not sure that I could tell my daughter to give up what obviously makes her happy - or at least she thinks she is. My family - I'm not sure how to deal with that. We are very, very close and always have been. I am with them all the time, as is the family tradition. My daughter visits on holidays and they always loved it. Now I'm not sure that they even want her around and I don't know how to respond to this either. Not because of my family's feelings, but because of my own - I want my daughter to realize what she is getting herself into - the many people she will be hurting including herself, as they will not want to have anything to do with her. We are a large family - aunts, uncles, cousins - and they will not accept it, as I am not sure that I can either. What to do?
Why is everyone so concerned that he is black? The color of someone's skin should never be an issue. What you should focus on is does he have good character, does he treat your daugher with respect, does he cherish her? It is hard for me to believe that in 2008 people are still stuck on racial issues. As for your family, shame on them for being embarassed. If your daughter is lucky enough to find someone that is a good partner and makes her happy, you should have the guts to support her.
