Quote From: cndrllaGood for you that you know what's really important!
The wedding was awful for the first couple, but the marriage seems to be a good one...she does need to get over the whole thing and go on with life. Those were but a few short moments in the grand scheme of things!
With the second couple, she needs to learn the meaning of respect towards this man with whom she's going to (hopefully) spend the rest of her life. Does she really want a man who never speaks up for himself? Or does she want a partner?
I'm a little concerned over the physical violence that was mentioned by these two....(a baseball bat? Not a good sign!) Once you cross that line, it's easier the next time.
Please visit my website WWW.NONONSENSEGRAMMYTREE.BLOGSPOT.COM and click on the article "But I Love Him"...maybe it will give some insight to those of you planning a wedding.
I get the idea that she does not respect anyone else's feelings; not just her future husband. If you care about people you don't ry to control their every move. Why can't the bridesmaids choose the color of their nailpolish? And why can't they ear their hair in a way they fell comfortable? She wants to shine above everyone else......does she feel insecure that someone is going to outshine her and steal the show?
The control issue is going to be a huge factor for years down the road if she does not fix it. While she may feel that she is in control of her life, she will find people slipping away from her because of the attitude.
