Replies to '12/28 Wifestyles'

My reaction to watching Grant and Kelly was,  Grant was not understood for what he was trying to say.  He obviously loves kelly and was not trying to be vicious and critical, but was wanting to improve the domestic situation.  Being an engineer, his nature is  to have things neat and orderly -- which I have to agree, makes life daily life much more enjoyable.  It looks like kelly could use some helpful tips to less clutter and more space, which makes everyday housekeeping easier and the mind feel more at ease.  Of course you should scrape the dishes before putting them in the washer;  of course you can make good, simple dinners with just a little planning;  maybe grant could consider hiring a housecleaner once a month for the big stuff,  just to give kelly a little help, if things aren't up to his standard.  And maybe Kelly could try to get more of a schedule to complete tasks, or a babysitter while she goes shopping.  He was not trying to personally attack kelly,  but  just felt there was room for improvement as far as the manner in which she did her chores.  He is just more precise and particular about the way things should be done.  Of course it's nice to wake up to an empty dishwasher and clean kitchen, Kelly just has to learn how to manage her time better and ask for help when she can't get everything done.  It takes two to run a household.  I thought his biggest complaint was he wanted the house more organized; a place for everything and everything in its place.  I think Kelly shouldn't take it as a personal insult when he wants to help organize the tupperware drawer, or clean the pantry - let him do it!  I always tell my husband, if he can do a better job, then go ahead and do it.  It might even make her life easier.  And you do have to take time, just a little effort, five minutes before your husband gets home to put your hair in a poneytail or put on a clean top.  A little effort goes a long way.  And I'm sorry, Kelly, but you do look like you shop with your mother -- you're too young for that.  Go shop with a girlfriend next time.  There is enough time in the day, if you plan your day right.  I'm a working mother so I have to throw a load of clothes in the washer before I leave in the morning, then throw them in the dryer before I go to bed at night, so I don't have to spend my weekends doing laundry.  There is no reason to leave them in there for days.  Kelly, try to get some professional domestic housecleaning tips to make it  more enjoyable. It's not that hard, you just need a system.  Make a big meatloaf on Sunday dinner so you can have leftovers on Monday.  Find some easy recepies.  Cooking together can actually be fun.  You can throw a chuck roast in the crockpot with a bottle of salsa on top and bake potatoes and have a delicious dinner.  That's one of my favorites, and easy.  You can put a whole chicken in the oven rubbed with spices and bake it slowly all day with some steamed rice, and another delicious dinner.  I'll be happy to give you some simple recipies, if you would like.  And make the kids help and get involved.  You'd be surprised how much they can do and how much they will live up to your expectations to help keep the house clean.  My one-year-old helps me throw his dirty clothes in the laundry.  They can help set the table.  They can put their dishes on the sink.  Every little bit helps.  Wow, I wrote much more than I intended to.  I hope my suggestions are helpful. 

Good luck, Roseanna 

My reaction to watching Grant and Kelly was,  Grant was not understood for what he was trying to say.  He obviously loves kelly and was not trying to be vicious and critical, but was wanting to improve the domestic situation.  Being an engineer, his nature is  to have things neat and orderly -- which I have to agree, makes life daily life much more enjoyable.  It looks like kelly could use some helpful tips to less clutter and more space, which makes everyday housekeeping easier and the mind feel more at ease.  Of course you should scrape the dishes before putting them in the washer;  of course you can make good, simple dinners with just a little planning;  maybe grant could consider hiring a housecleaner once a month for the big stuff,  just to give kelly a little help, if things aren't up to his standard.  And maybe Kelly could try to get more of a schedule to complete tasks, or a babysitter while she goes shopping.  He was not trying to personally attack kelly,  but  just felt there was room for improvement as far as the manner in which she did her chores.  He is just more precise and particular about the way things should be done.  Of course it's nice to wake up to an empty dishwasher and clean kitchen, Kelly just has to learn how to manage her time better and ask for help when she can't get everything done.  It takes two to run a household.  I thought his biggest complaint was he wanted the house more organized; a place for everything and everything in its place.  I think Kelly shouldn't take it as a personal insult when he wants to help organize the tupperware drawer, or clean the pantry - let him do it!  I always tell my husband, if he can do a better job, then go ahead and do it.  It might even make her life easier.  And you do have to take time, just a little effort, five minutes before your husband gets home to put your hair in a poneytail or put on a clean top.  A little effort goes a long way.  And I'm sorry, Kelly, but you do look like you shop with your mother -- you're too young for that.  Go shop with a girlfriend next time.  There is enough time in the day, if you plan your day right.  I'm a working mother so I have to throw a load of clothes in the washer before I leave in the morning, then throw them in the dryer before I go to bed at night, so I don't have to spend my weekends doing laundry.  There is no reason to leave them in there for days.  Kelly, try to get some professional domestic housecleaning tips to make it  more enjoyable. It's not that hard, you just need a system.  Make a big meatloaf on Sunday dinner so you can have leftovers on Monday.  Find some easy recepies.  Cooking together can actually be fun.  You can throw a chuck roast in the crockpot with a bottle of salsa on top and bake potatoes and have a delicious dinner.  That's one of my favorites, and easy.  You can put a whole chicken in the oven rubbed with spices and bake it slowly all day with some steamed rice, and another delicious dinner.  I'll be happy to give you some simple recipies, if you would like.  And make the kids help and get involved.  You'd be surprised how much they can do and how much they will live up to your expectations to help keep the house clean.  My one-year-old helps me throw his dirty clothes in the laundry.  They can help set the table.  They can put their dishes on the sink.  Every little bit helps.  Wow, I wrote much more than I intended to.  I hope my suggestions are helpful. 

Good luck, Roseanna 

My reaction to watching Grant and Kelly was,  Grant was not understood for what he was trying to say.  He obviously loves kelly and was not trying to be vicious and critical, but was wanting to improve the domestic situation.  Being an engineer, his nature is  to have things neat and orderly -- which I have to agree, makes life daily life much more enjoyable.  It looks like kelly could use some helpful tips to less clutter and more space, which makes everyday housekeeping easier and the mind feel more at ease.  Of course you should scrape the dishes before putting them in the washer;  of course you can make good, simple dinners with just a little planning;  maybe grant could consider hiring a housecleaner once a month for the big stuff,  just to give kelly a little help, if things aren't up to his standard.  And maybe Kelly could try to get more of a schedule to complete tasks, or a babysitter while she goes shopping.  He was not trying to personally attack kelly,  but  just felt there was room for improvement as far as the manner in which she did her chores.  He is just more precise and particular about the way things should be done.  Of course it's nice to wake up to an empty dishwasher and clean kitchen, Kelly just has to learn how to manage her time better and ask for help when she can't get everything done.  It takes two to run a household.  I thought his biggest complaint was he wanted the house more organized; a place for everything and everything in its place.  I think Kelly shouldn't take it as a personal insult when he wants to help organize the tupperware drawer, or clean the pantry - let him do it!  I always tell my husband, if he can do a better job, then go ahead and do it.  It might even make her life easier.  And you do have to take time, just a little effort, five minutes before your husband gets home to put your hair in a poneytail or put on a clean top.  A little effort goes a long way.  And I'm sorry, Kelly, but you do look like you shop with your mother -- you're too young for that.  Go shop with a girlfriend next time.  There is enough time in the day, if you plan your day right.  I'm a working mother so I have to throw a load of clothes in the washer before I leave in the morning, then throw them in the dryer before I go to bed at night, so I don't have to spend my weekends doing laundry.  There is no reason to leave them in there for days.  Kelly, try to get some professional domestic housecleaning tips to make it  more enjoyable. It's not that hard, you just need a system.  Make a big meatloaf on Sunday dinner so you can have leftovers on Monday.  Find some easy recepies.  Cooking together can actually be fun.  You can throw a chuck roast in the crockpot with a bottle of salsa on top and bake potatoes and have a delicious dinner.  That's one of my favorites, and easy.  You can put a whole chicken in the oven rubbed with spices and bake it slowly all day with some steamed rice, and another delicious dinner.  I'll be happy to give you some simple recipies, if you would like.  And make the kids help and get involved.  You'd be surprised how much they can do and how much they will live up to your expectations to help keep the house clean.  My one-year-old helps me throw his dirty clothes in the laundry.  They can help set the table.  They can put their dishes on the sink.  Every little bit helps.  Wow, I wrote much more than I intended to.  I hope my suggestions are helpful. 

Good luck, Roseanna