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October 10, 2005, 11:00 pm PDT
agreed
Quote From: mbrennan3While this whole "treat him well and he'll treat you well" is a great idea, we all know that it's not always realistic. I also think that it keeps us in the mindset of having expectations for our husbands, rather than having expectations for ourselves (i.e. what we expect from ourselves.) Anyone really struggling in a relationship like this needs to look at how they are enabling that behavior. No one can treat you in way that you don't allow / accept. I think that women put up with husbands like this because they don't expect more from themselves. I believe that if you give and give from the start they will always expect it, even after you get tired of it. If you have always done things his way then decide not to, how is he supposed to react to that? But I also believe that if your husband couldn't do the housework and caring for the kids any better, he shouldn't criticize you for it. The husband put just as much work in having the kids, he should take some responibilities helping after they are born. If the husband can't pick up after himself at least, he is just another child to care for. And should be treated like one.
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