Replies to '12/28 Wifestyles'

If you consider how overwhelming it is to stand in your kitchen and think of reorganizing it with the kids running around and every day chores beckoning - you just don't know where to start!  Is it even worth it to clean one drawer or cupboard when you know it is all you could hope to accomplish in day?  The thought is completely overwhelming, so you just walk away and don't even put yourself through the heartache.   

Apply this same picture to your relationship...the exasperation you are feeling is exactly what your wife is feeling too!  Step one is to know that there is no easy answer, no quick fix.  Step two is to realize that just as life changes so must we reevaluate our expectations.  What you could accomplish as a couple without kids is not comparable to what you can accomplish with kids - the mathematics of time are against you.  Reevaluate!  If organization or cleanliness is a point of contention for you and your wife but time is not available to fix this to either of your satisfaction then hire some help.  Hire a babysitter to watch the kids while the two of you attack the toy room or the kitchen one day and then enjoy a movie or dinner out as a celebration.  Or hire a housekeeper to do the heavy chores like bathrooms and floors so your wife can have guilt free play time with the kids...