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February 25, 2008, 6:08 pm PST
 Quote From: wdisneynut I saw the previews for this show and was very afraid to watch. Mainly because I am the mother of a 19 year old daughter who I'm afraid is on her way to a situation like Aimee's. During high school she has always struggled with self esteem, which of course her dad and I could not understand, and still cannot. She is beautiful, has the figure most women would die for and can sing like an angel. But it doesn't matter. For some reason she hates herself. We have been to numerous counselors and even contemplated a treatment center, but her counselor thought she probably wouldn't be admitted because she wasn't physically sick. The weird thing is she doesn't purge, (that we know of), but she has taken laxatives and when she eats, she hates herself for it. She is always on the scale. She goes to school in NY and I know she struggles with it emotionally constantly. Even having a boyfriend who treats her like a queen doesn't seem to help. I am scared to death for her. I don't want to see this happen to her and want her to find a way to love herself again, like she did when she was a little girl. Help, please. I was quite concerned about your comments. Speaking as mother of a daughter with an eating disorder, please start researching about getting your daughter help at a treatment facility. We did the counselors, several. All who professed to be experts. What we found was that unless the counselor was in recovery from an eating disorder, they really didn't know how to properly treat my daughter. Those with eating disorders are good liars. She also took laxatives and was purging in our house. We found out more of her secrets during our family week. (We attended the treatment facility for an entire week as part of the treatment) My daughter is an over-achieving perfectionist. She was in her freshman year at college when I suggested she go to a 6-day intensive treatment. While she was there, she realized she was REALLY sick and was not going to be getting better without the intensive treatment. I would like to say we did that and all is well. She stayed the first time for 72 days which included transistion. She lived with 4 other girls next door to the center and they began taking control back of their lives. They had to make a meal plan for the week, shop on Mondays and had $50 to do it. They continued with meetings daily. They had to schedule any outings and state exactly where they were going. She did great for a while but we knew it would be a struggle. She went back for another 6-day the following year and only stayed the 6-days. She said it was the best thing ever. She had to go back again this past fall. She only stayed in the intensive center for about 2 weeks and then moved on to transition. She now has an apartment with one of the girls she met at the transition house. She is doing better being able to have someone to relate to. They continue to keep in contact with the facility and attend meetings daily. My daughter had a boyfriend during this. He was a trooper. He held her accountable for her behaviors. Some of his control was a piece of the puzzle but he was very instrumental in having us see how sick she really was. Your daughters boyfriend may become very helpful in the process of your daughter seeking treatment. I don't work for the facility where my daughter went and don't get any type of commission for telling people about the place but I have to say they have saved my daugher's life. You can check out their website. They continue to have 6-day intensive treatment programs almost every month. www.shadesofhope.com
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