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Replies to '02/25 Deadly Thin'
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February 25, 2008, 10:25 am PST
 Quote From: cndrlla I think it's very telling that the image of you (that is you, isn't it?) that you have with your posting is extremely blurred....kind of says to me that you don't see yourself clearly and don't want others to either.
You say you are seeing a therapist, and that's good....but, is this therapist truly helping you? It doesn't sound like it....however, I don't know where you were before you began therapy...but it's obvious that you have a long way to go, and I sure hope you are able to get where you need to be.
You said you were "stubborn and a fighter"..I hope for your sake that is true...but, the last line of your post concerns me because it indicates that you have given up and are resigned to dying.
You also said that you have a "contract" with your therapist not to take pills or to cut yourself uncontrollably.....However, I will tell you that it is still morning and you're already drinking, and that will undermine any progress you may make. If your present therapy isn't doing enough, I hope you will seek more help. If one thing doesn't help, you have to try another. There are many resources available.
Your life is valuable, and you can contribute something to society if you choose to do so. One way to help yourself is to get your focus off yourself and help others. Our personal problems are never so little as when we see those who are so much worse off, and we find that we can make a difference in their lives.
So by your rationale, she should just turn on a switch and get better? That doesn't happen. She could help all the people she wants, but it's NOT going to stop the anxiety, the depression, or the cutting.
Anorexia is about CONTROL issues, NOT attention. People with eating disorders try to HIDE it, not make it known. I hate it when people make light of a mental illness and say "oh, they just want attention". If the parents said that, their daughters would end up dead- they need enough attention to get help.
They're not "little girls who don't want to grow up", they have low self esteem about the control in their lives, and it mutates into a perception issue. They need professional help to deal with any underlying issues instead of someone callously telling them to grow up. Why don't you just call them fat, too? Chipping away at a fragile self esteem is NOT what they need. |
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