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May 22, 2008, 5:59 pm PDT
not adhd
Quote From: mommy8532Hello. I need some opinions. I am a mother of 4 children 9,6,4 nd 3. Yes i know it sounds bad. But recently in the past few yrs has been hard for us. Jan 5 2004 my mother passes away with out warning, Jan 5 2006 my hubby Neal is diagnosed with stage 3 cancer of the throat. then Jan 31, 2008 my house catches on fire. And well one more thing I have kidney stones...
Now u know what all is happening to have things the way they are. My hubby and I have a happy marriage. I work 2nd and he works 1st. My 4 yr old son is my problem. When he was born we WAs very happy that we got a boy. Time moves on, he is now 4. when he was 2 things started to change. my son had become more hyper he was in preschool. the teachers and us was working on all the behavioral issues not sitting still cant think real clear and hes sweet and loving.
My son has some anger issues nowtoday he said to the sitter "i don't like u, daddy or mommy" I want to burn down the house. i hate u he has spurts every now and then of theses. i think he can sense when stress happens. we have been thru therapists-a few sessions. we have also done positive reinforcement. i can only keep my cool with him for a little while. the constant ups and downs are making me sad, hurtful and well frustrated. I feel i have not succeeded as a parent. my other children relationships are suffering from me being stressed. my hubby is all part of this too, he has the cool but wants to do something about it also. help us someone. plz....
ty- I think your child is thinking that things like the house burning down and his dad getting sick are more important than him and obviously he has had alot of attention taken away from him because of these problems. When i was a child my mother always thaught i had adhd but looking back now i think i was just crying out for some attention as there were 6 kids in my family and mum and dad had limited time for me. So by being naughty i made them have time for me. I think all you need to do is when your son is being naughty you need to give him one set punishment and always stick to it. But when he is being punnished you need to be calm and hardly pay attention to him so for eg, He has said something bad to the babysitter what you need to do is calmly tell him to go to his room and if he says 'no!' calmly grab the top of his arm and lead him to his room without saying anything eles. While he is in his room and yelling out stuff, you need to egnore him and around 4 minuits later you go into his room and calmly talk to him about what he has done tell him to apologise and when he does, praise him for that. So when ever he does something good you need to make a big deal about it and praise him and when he is naughty you need to punnish him whith as little attention as possible. That way after a few weeks he will know that he only gets your full attention when he does something good.
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