Quote From: elendil2Thank you for your advice, your probably right that its not a good idea to pretend that I'm not shy. I've never tried it before, but when I think about it, it probably wouldn't have worked. It would be hard to act outgoing when I feel really scared inside. I've also been told that my facial expressions are very easy to read and people can tell when I'm shy or scared. That would have made it impossble for me to act like I'm outgoing.
Again, thank you for the advice. I will focus on the other person more next time. And I will look for people who has 1 or 2 of the same interests I have. It is really hard for me to trust people when I have been mistreated by my best friend in the past. So taking things slowly is something I prefer to do. For a long time I wouldn't talk to anybody because I was so afraid of being rejected. But over the past two weeks I made 2 new friends. The first week I hung out with one of the girls, the next week I hung out with the next one. I'm taking it very slow with them, so I still feel nervous around them. But I will make sure I will focus on them and be interested in them.
I was happy to be of help and wish you luck with your new friendships. It is always better to be yourself than to try to act like someone else. You are right to take things slow and build up trust gradually. Please make sure that these friends are giving back to you as well'; friendship should be a two-way street with give and take on both sides of it. Try not to let that girl from the past sour you on new friendships. She sounds like a bad apple to me, but there are alot of good ones out there.
BTW, your picture is interesting..where was it taken? It is kind of hard to tell because it is small. Just curious!!!!
Have a good day and good luck to you! J.B.
