Replies to '03/03 Teens and Sex with Bishop T.D. Jakes'

After watching the show and reading some of these posts I am really surprised that no one pointed out or even mentioned one of the biggest culprits of this issue; The entertainment we've stooped to in this country, movies, magazines, music, sexually explicit novels, all of which glorify sex outside of marriage. All of which glorify having many sexual partners. We have thong underare for 10 year olds!!!!!. We have our 5 and six year olds idolizing the actions of entertainers such as Britney Spears and Lidnsey Lohan, who wear clothes to entertain that barely cover their bodies, then they jirate their bodies around in a very sexually explicit  manner, and we let them watch this stuff, then later sit back and ask what happened?

Although the sexual revolution brought about much needed change for women in the workplace it also changed the dynamic of the home. Mom's began to think "staying at home" was somehow now a demeaning way to spend ones life. Even still, many times when asked what your occupation is the word "just" seems to precede "a stay at home mom". The way women were looked upon changed. Men began to look at women as sexual objects and it has continued to escalate from one generation to the next.

If we look back to the days of our grandparents, we didn't have these issues in such great proportions. I say this because some would argue, it was there we just didn't hear of it, I beg to differ. No, we did not have these issues the way we do today. But, no one wants to carry the burden of blame, that too has spooled out onto this generation. The generation of "no consequences", ! We want to be able to do want we want, when we want, however we want, and when the consequences come, we want someone else to either take them off our backs completely, or at the very least, take the brunt of it; ie, grandparents raising their childrens, children, taking care of them financially well into their twenty's when they are perfectly capable to take care of themselves. We have parents that are emotionally, mentally and spiritually not to mention physically scarred from the errors of their ways from their own generation trying to raise a new generation, with the delusion they will do it better, yet using the same standard.

The standard needs to be raised back up. Responsibility needs to get back into the home with the parents for raising their children, not the schools, not the churches,and not the community group down the street. The value of family has been diminished to a "take it or leave it" mentality. Responsibility, consequences for poor choices, love and support in the home, guidance and understanding from the parents.

Bottom line......this is more than an issue about a teen keeping their virginity until marriage, this is an issue about the demise of the "family".  If we would stop taking our kids to see these raunchy sex filled movies, stop buying the junk teen magazines that glorify the "hook up", stop buying the sexually explicit music, start monitoring our television programing with our kids.  Get back to setting the boundaries with our kids that they so look for and need. Showing them we value them, teaching them how to value themselves, their futures and each other. Show them by example with solid parental relationships.

I just think if we beagn implementing less exposure to all this stuff and got back to what it means to "raise a child up", we would see remakable change!

I fear how much more we will tolerate before we get fed up enough to say "enough", it needs to stop now. Let teachers do what they went to school to do, teach academics and let the parents do what they agreed to do when they took the risk of having a child, "raise them up responsibly".

After watching the show and reading some of these posts I am really surprised that no one pointed out or even mentioned one of the biggest culprits of this issue; The entertainment we've stooped to in this country, movies, magazines, music, sexually explicit novels, all of which glorify sex outside of marriage. All of which glorify having many sexual partners. We have thong underare for 10 year olds!!!!!. We have our 5 and six year olds idolizing the actions of entertainers such as Britney Spears and Lidnsey Lohan, who wear clothes to entertain that barely cover their bodies, then they jirate their bodies around in a very sexually explicit  manner, and we let them watch this stuff, then later sit back and ask what happened?

Although the sexual revolution brought about much needed change for women in the workplace it also changed the dynamic of the home. Mom's began to think "staying at home" was somehow now a demeaning way to spend ones life. Even still, many times when asked what your occupation is the word "just" seems to precede "a stay at home mom". The way women were looked upon changed. Men began to look at women as sexual objects and it has continued to escalate from one generation to the next.

If we look back to the days of our grandparents, we didn't have these issues in such great proportions. I say this because some would argue, it was there we just didn't hear of it, I beg to differ. No, we did not have these issues the way we do today. But, no one wants to carry the burden of blame, that too has spooled out onto this generation. The generation of "no consequences", ! We want to be able to do want we want, when we want, however we want, and when the consequences come, we want someone else to either take them off our backs completely, or at the very least, take the brunt of it; ie, grandparents raising their childrens, children, taking care of them financially well into their twenty's when they are perfectly capable to take care of themselves. We have parents that are emotionally, mentally and spiritually not to mention physically scarred from the errors of their ways from their own generation trying to raise a new generation, with the delusion they will do it better, yet using the same standard.

The standard needs to be raised back up. Responsibility needs to get back into the home with the parents for raising their children, not the schools, not the churches,and not the community group down the street. The value of family has been diminished to a "take it or leave it" mentality. Responsibility, consequences for poor choices, love and support in the home, guidance and understanding from the parents.

Bottom line......this is more than an issue about a teen keeping their virginity until marriage, this is an issue about the demise of the "family".  If we would stop taking our kids to see these raunchy sex filled movies, stop buying the junk teen magazines that glorify the "hook up", stop buying the sexually explicit music, start monitoring our television programing with our kids.  Get back to setting the boundaries with our kids that they so look for and need. Showing them we value them, teaching them how to value themselves, their futures and each other. Show them by example with solid parental relationships.

I just think if we beagn implementing less exposure to all this stuff and got back to what it means to "raise a child up", we would see remakable change!

I fear how much more we will tolerate before we get fed up enough to say "enough", it needs to stop now. Let teachers do what they went to school to do, teach academics and let the parents do what they agreed to do when they took the risk of having a child, "raise them up responsibly".