Shana I can relate to what you are going through. I waitress ed most of my life, and or bar tended
my last restaurant was a six year stay.
The bulling usually comes from jealously, and envy by the culprits.
Especially if you are good at what you do, and the public loves you and requests your table.
I have found that the more private you are, especially when it comes to what you made in tips, the better off you are.
Cooks especially can be a hard hoe to tow. I had a cook once get the edge of my plate that I was to carry out to the customer, so hot that I had to drop it, all because I would not date him.
I had another cook damage my car twice because I told the owners that he was giving free food away to his friend.
In this business it is cut throat, no one is really your friend. They bait you to obtain gossip that they can pass on. These are usually insecure, no life, on drugs, or booze. So they cannot stand someone that has it together.
Do not loan anyone that you work with money! That is a very bad move. You usually have to beg for your money back, cause they hope you will forget about the loan.
Watch what you say, and watch your back. The restaurant business can be a very hard job with the politics.
Good Luck Picalina
