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March 7, 2008, 5:27 am PST
Yes, something needs to change
Quote From: catbel30When I was 19 I met the man I thought I was going to marry. Yes we lived together, got engaged, and got pregnant. I found out when our daughter was 2 years old he had taken a 14 year old girl for a ride in his car, had sex with her and brought her home like everything was normal. She bragged cause she had been with a 25 year old. Rumors caught up with him and he was found guilty and is now a registered sexual offender. The courts still wanted to let him have visitation rights to our daughter. While fighting him in court my lawyer found out this was not the first time and when we was 13 he raped a 13 year old and had a son with her. Also found out that he had molested his 2 younger sisters. I do not think they should be put back into society, it;s like handing candy to a baby. Luckily I found a wonderful man who loved me and my daughter, enough to want to adopt her. I fought to keep him away and I succeeded, what about the girls who can't bedsides the fact that everywhere you turn there is one living next door. I have 2 daughters and scared everyday who is lurking around the corner. Something needs to change. I'm sorry this happened to you. I'm glad that he was found guilty.
As a survivor of multiple sexual abuses, I fear for our children.
Counseling helped me to a point to deal w/ the assaults. Attending Adult Children of Alcoholics meetings helped me to a point.
I've shared what I went through with my children. Now, that they're married and they're having children, they are more aware of the importance of keeping vigilant.
The communities in which we live, though, have to become involved. That requires changes in how society thinks and treats others. I'm sorry to say that I don't see that happening any time soon.
My husband, I'm fortunate to be able to say, has been supportive of me. I had to come to terms, though, with his own thinking. When I told him that I thought that my father had sexually molested me, he, at first, was unwilling to accept that. It took some time, reading, listening to others share, as well as watching me change that convinced him that I wa telling the truth. One day at a time; one person at a time.
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