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March 8, 2008, 9:40 am PST

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 I don't believe there is such a thing as too much sex as long as both parties have mutual feelings over the times a day or week to have sex. I haven't been with many partners in my life but they have all been different to the degree of how many times a week they wanted it. I may be somewhat different from some women as I was okay when it wasn't that often and am absolutely fine with my partner now who wants it every day and even more than once a day if possible.
Whatever works for your relationship as long as both agree is fine. It's when one wants it many times and the other only wants it rarely that problems begin.
I do wonder if the number of women who don't have orgasms is higher than stated at 10% as I have met many women who have admitted they have never had an orgasm? I am thankful that hasn't been my problem but I do know that unless I am truly in love with the other person, I for some reason can only have a real orgasm then. The emotion of love itself is a very important component to how often I want sex, how I feel about sex with my partner, and how free I am willing to be.
I congratulate you for being the type of woman most men dream of. I have been married 34 yrs to a woman that does not desire nor did she ever desire sex. For the last 25 yrs we average having sex 6 times a year. Yes I said 6 times a year. That is an average. Last year was only 4 times and so far this year is only once. I have tried everything suggested by therapists, psychologist, and/or pschiatrists with no better results. I have had many a person say why do I stay with her? My answer is always "I married her for better of worse" not until it got worse or only for the better.
 
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March 8, 2008, 10:48 am PST

03/12 Let’s Talk about Sex

Quote From: lifepath12

 I don't believe there is such a thing as too much sex as long as both parties have mutual feelings over the times a day or week to have sex. I haven't been with many partners in my life but they have all been different to the degree of how many times a week they wanted it. I may be somewhat different from some women as I was okay when it wasn't that often and am absolutely fine with my partner now who wants it every day and even more than once a day if possible.
Whatever works for your relationship as long as both agree is fine. It's when one wants it many times and the other only wants it rarely that problems begin.
I do wonder if the number of women who don't have orgasms is higher than stated at 10% as I have met many women who have admitted they have never had an orgasm? I am thankful that hasn't been my problem but I do know that unless I am truly in love with the other person, I for some reason can only have a real orgasm then. The emotion of love itself is a very important component to how often I want sex, how I feel about sex with my partner, and how free I am willing to be.
If this "sexual activity" is sexual intercourse, especially man-on-top, without suffient foreplay, the percentage would be closer to 70. Only about 30 % of women have orgasms via intercourse. There just isn't enough clitoral stimulation. Stimulation of the G-spot can produce a different kind of argasm. But, it can take 10 to 15 minutes of hard thrusting.
 
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March 9, 2008, 7:11 am PDT

03/12 Let’s Talk about Sex

Quote From: lifepath12

 I don't believe there is such a thing as too much sex as long as both parties have mutual feelings over the times a day or week to have sex. I haven't been with many partners in my life but they have all been different to the degree of how many times a week they wanted it. I may be somewhat different from some women as I was okay when it wasn't that often and am absolutely fine with my partner now who wants it every day and even more than once a day if possible.
Whatever works for your relationship as long as both agree is fine. It's when one wants it many times and the other only wants it rarely that problems begin.
I do wonder if the number of women who don't have orgasms is higher than stated at 10% as I have met many women who have admitted they have never had an orgasm? I am thankful that hasn't been my problem but I do know that unless I am truly in love with the other person, I for some reason can only have a real orgasm then. The emotion of love itself is a very important component to how often I want sex, how I feel about sex with my partner, and how free I am willing to be.

 

         You aren't alone.  When my partners asked me what I wanted, sexually, they never understood how important feeling loved is.  I didn't myself, until the first time "it" happened.  I'm not picky.  I just wanted to be loved and cared for.   

 


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