Replies to '03/12 Let’s Talk about Sex'

Quote From: blueyes45

I am 55 and remarried in November of last year after being divorced for seven years, during which time I dated and was sexually active.  I knew my new husband from high school days and we reconnected when I moved back to my hometown and his wife had filed for divorce and moved to another city.  Our romance began in April of 2006.  I expected a normal sex life with him because we love each other very much.  However, I was shocked to find he is impotent.  We made a couple of attempts at intercours but, even though he said he had an orgasm, there was no semen.  He told me his doctor said there is such thing as a "dry" orgasm.  He also said the medication he takes for blood sugar, Metformin, prevents him from being able to take Viagra.   He visited his doctor and a urologist to have the issue checked out.  He claims there is nothing physically wrong with his body, it just doesn't respond as it should and the doctors can't do anything for him.  The subject was pretty much dropped.  Still, we love each other so much that we got married after being together for a year and a half.  Now I just feel sadness.  He is a wonderful man and I love him dearly.  But I am sad when I think that we can never physically express our love like normal couples do.  I miss the intimacy of making love, but I would never think of cheating on him.  Now I am not sure what to do.  I had a friend, my age, ask me if we necessarily needed anything more than love and companionship at our age.  Her point being that she saw nothing wrong with settling for a sexless relationship.  She lost her husband of 30 years to cancer just three years ago and hasn't really had the desire to date or move forward with her romantic life.  So I can understand how she might feel that I have all I need in a relationship.  I am no longer physically attracted to him and I feel guilty for that even though it wouldn't help if I was still attracted to him.  I'm not sure what will eventually happen to our relationship.  I have found, from past experience, that you may have good intentions in the beginning of making things work, but problems eventually wear on you.  Now what?

Quote From: blueyes45

I am 55 and remarried in November of last year after being divorced for seven years, during which time I dated and was sexually active.  I knew my new husband from high school days and we reconnected when I moved back to my hometown and his wife had filed for divorce and moved to another city.  Our romance began in April of 2006.  I expected a normal sex life with him because we love each other very much.  However, I was shocked to find he is impotent.  We made a couple of attempts at intercours but, even though he said he had an orgasm, there was no semen.  He told me his doctor said there is such thing as a "dry" orgasm.  He also said the medication he takes for blood sugar, Metformin, prevents him from being able to take Viagra.   He visited his doctor and a urologist to have the issue checked out.  He claims there is nothing physically wrong with his body, it just doesn't respond as it should and the doctors can't do anything for him.  The subject was pretty much dropped.  Still, we love each other so much that we got married after being together for a year and a half.  Now I just feel sadness.  He is a wonderful man and I love him dearly.  But I am sad when I think that we can never physically express our love like normal couples do.  I miss the intimacy of making love, but I would never think of cheating on him.  Now I am not sure what to do.  I had a friend, my age, ask me if we necessarily needed anything more than love and companionship at our age.  Her point being that she saw nothing wrong with settling for a sexless relationship.  She lost her husband of 30 years to cancer just three years ago and hasn't really had the desire to date or move forward with her romantic life.  So I can understand how she might feel that I have all I need in a relationship.  I am no longer physically attracted to him and I feel guilty for that even though it wouldn't help if I was still attracted to him.  I'm not sure what will eventually happen to our relationship.  I have found, from past experience, that you may have good intentions in the beginning of making things work, but problems eventually wear on you.  Now what?

Quote From: blueyes45

I am 55 and remarried in November of last year after being divorced for seven years, during which time I dated and was sexually active.  I knew my new husband from high school days and we reconnected when I moved back to my hometown and his wife had filed for divorce and moved to another city.  Our romance began in April of 2006.  I expected a normal sex life with him because we love each other very much.  However, I was shocked to find he is impotent.  We made a couple of attempts at intercours but, even though he said he had an orgasm, there was no semen.  He told me his doctor said there is such thing as a "dry" orgasm.  He also said the medication he takes for blood sugar, Metformin, prevents him from being able to take Viagra.   He visited his doctor and a urologist to have the issue checked out.  He claims there is nothing physically wrong with his body, it just doesn't respond as it should and the doctors can't do anything for him.  The subject was pretty much dropped.  Still, we love each other so much that we got married after being together for a year and a half.  Now I just feel sadness.  He is a wonderful man and I love him dearly.  But I am sad when I think that we can never physically express our love like normal couples do.  I miss the intimacy of making love, but I would never think of cheating on him.  Now I am not sure what to do.  I had a friend, my age, ask me if we necessarily needed anything more than love and companionship at our age.  Her point being that she saw nothing wrong with settling for a sexless relationship.  She lost her husband of 30 years to cancer just three years ago and hasn't really had the desire to date or move forward with her romantic life.  So I can understand how she might feel that I have all I need in a relationship.  I am no longer physically attracted to him and I feel guilty for that even though it wouldn't help if I was still attracted to him.  I'm not sure what will eventually happen to our relationship.  I have found, from past experience, that you may have good intentions in the beginning of making things work, but problems eventually wear on you.  Now what?

Quote From: blueyes45

I am 55 and remarried in November of last year after being divorced for seven years, during which time I dated and was sexually active.  I knew my new husband from high school days and we reconnected when I moved back to my hometown and his wife had filed for divorce and moved to another city.  Our romance began in April of 2006.  I expected a normal sex life with him because we love each other very much.  However, I was shocked to find he is impotent.  We made a couple of attempts at intercours but, even though he said he had an orgasm, there was no semen.  He told me his doctor said there is such thing as a "dry" orgasm.  He also said the medication he takes for blood sugar, Metformin, prevents him from being able to take Viagra.   He visited his doctor and a urologist to have the issue checked out.  He claims there is nothing physically wrong with his body, it just doesn't respond as it should and the doctors can't do anything for him.  The subject was pretty much dropped.  Still, we love each other so much that we got married after being together for a year and a half.  Now I just feel sadness.  He is a wonderful man and I love him dearly.  But I am sad when I think that we can never physically express our love like normal couples do.  I miss the intimacy of making love, but I would never think of cheating on him.  Now I am not sure what to do.  I had a friend, my age, ask me if we necessarily needed anything more than love and companionship at our age.  Her point being that she saw nothing wrong with settling for a sexless relationship.  She lost her husband of 30 years to cancer just three years ago and hasn't really had the desire to date or move forward with her romantic life.  So I can understand how she might feel that I have all I need in a relationship.  I am no longer physically attracted to him and I feel guilty for that even though it wouldn't help if I was still attracted to him.  I'm not sure what will eventually happen to our relationship.  I have found, from past experience, that you may have good intentions in the beginning of making things work, but problems eventually wear on you.  Now what?