Replies to '03/12 Let’s Talk about Sex'

My husband is in great physical shape, no health problems, does not take any medications, doesn't smoke, drinks occasionally.   HIs main problem is that he rarely shows emotion and doesn''t like to talk about anything personal or emotion ladened.  He is 46 years old and I am 42.  It seems that our sex life was fine prior to him turning 40 and then it started to go downhill. What I mean is that he doesn't seem to be in the mood as much.  We have been together for 8 years.  I am lucky if we have sex monthly.  I have attempted to initiate it, but he puts me off, saying he doesn't necessarily like me coming on too strong. He is involved with playing computer games and plays on the pc from the time he gets home from work until the time he goes to bed with a short pause to eat dinner and walk the dogs with me for about 30 minutes.  I try to talk to him about it and he says he doesn't want to discuss it and that I just expect too much out of him.  He thinks it is age related.  I try to tell him that it isn't age related that it would possibly be biologically related but the number of years old you are related to low libido is a myth.  What can/should I do to encourage more sex in our relationship?  I would like to have sex at least once a week.  Sometimes he will initiate sex when he knows I am tired and then will tell me I dont' get enough sex because I always say no...which is NOT the case.  I've even gotten so crazy as to mark the dates on my calendar of when we have sex to prove to him that it is a long time between episodes..