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March 11, 2008, 6:09 am PDT
Marriage
Quote From: purpleroomMy fiance and I have been going out for about 4 years now, we got engaged last year and are currently planning for our wedding in June. I love him more than anything in the world, he's the man of my dreams, and I'm looking forward to marrying him and being with him.
But recently, I've been thinking about my ex boyfriend alot, wondering what could have been if we had'nt broken up. I see him every once in a while which makes me think about him even more, sometimes I even dream about him, and us being together again. I feel that I want to talk to him about my feelings, but I'm worried that it may ruin everything I have with my fiance, and even the thought of loosing or jepordizing my relationship with my fiance brings me to tears.
I dont know what I'm doing, i feel confused, not sure why I'm thinking about my ex, rather than focusing on my future with my fiance.
Any advice? It is possible that you are focusing on the past because you are fearful or uncertain of your future. You are looking to the past because you are wondering if “the grass is greener.” Most people will tell you this- the grass is NOT greener with your ex! There are reasons why you broke up, and throughout these four years that you’ve been apart, it is likely that he has developed into a different person. I’m sure that you’ve developed into a different person, too. You can’t help but to mature and evolve. You are looking into the past for a reason to not move forward, almost as though you are trying to be self destructive; don’t do this to yourself! You deserve to have true happiness with the (one man) that you love.
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