Quote From: rainpainrainYour husband has a right to know what you are doing since you share the implied possibility of sexual relations, even though you aren't having them. He has a right to know what you MAY be bringing to the table, that includes STD's and other issues that could arise. While he may not care that you are having an affair he has a right to know.
You say you love your husband, you say you know he'd be hurt. Well you ARE hurting him. You are making a fool of him. That's not nice.
GET PERMISSION....if he doesn't agree then maybe you should divorce.
You have a right to your personal happiness, but not at someone else's expense.
I agree with you when it comes to the "what should be" of sex....but the fact is, not everyone is that way and that is OK. Each person views sex differently, and that is OK.
It doesn't matter if you convince anyone on these boards that your affairs are ok...the only person it matters to is your husband, who, despite his problems sounds like a nice and loving man.
Again, HE HAS A RIGHT TO KNOW. Your affair IS hurting someone, because he is walking around believing a lie because you insist on making him into a fool.
I am an atheist, so this isn't some religious response. I firmly believe that open marriages are ok when all adults are CONSENTING. Your husband is NOT consenting to this.
You need to come clean and stop eating your cake and having sex with it too.
