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March 27, 2008, 9:24 am PDT
Co-Parenting
Quote From: greeneyes_1963I've been married for 24 years and have 3 children. My husband and I aren't in agreement over parenting the kids. We have been in major battles over the years over this. My job as a mother is to protect her children. Things he has done over the years has caused them to fear him. They don't like to go to him for anything that they might of done because they are afraid of him. He has broke their possessions and thrown things when he seems to be losing control of the situation. I'm even afraid to tell him things because i'm scared of his reaction. I don't want to upset him or make him mad. I want him to be happy because if he is happy everyone is happy. The last fight we had he accused me of turning the kids against him. That is the last thing i have ever wanted. I have encouraged the kids to go to him for things but they won't. I think my kids have been affected by his actions and i don't want it to go on anymore. I am going for counselling with my kids and I have told him he should get it too. He refuses to believe he has a problem. He says its because of me and I get in the way of his parenting. I've wanted him to go to a marriage counseller but he refuses. I want us to work thru this if we can but i'm not sure what to do. If he refuses to acknowledge there is a problem, what can I do? Is he two? Sounds like terrible two's to me. Living in fear is the last thing you want for your children. You are absolutely right, your job is to protect them, even if it means protecting them from their own father. They don't have a choice but you do. I think you already know what you have to do if he refuses to acknowledge the problem. You've got to get those babies out of there. Maybe that will wake him up, maybe it won't but at least you'll know you did everything you could do to give your children the best life possible. Don't they deserve that?
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