Quote From: judyblue22Men can rear children. Men can be loving and nurturing. Some women aren't loving and nurturing-it doesn't just come with the vagina.
Men are a much better parent than the mother in LOTS of families. In a lot of cases though, men don't get involved in child care, possibly through choice because it isn't supported in our society and possibly because the mommy maniac wouldn't let him parent. Our society marginalizes men as parents.
My husband is a wonderful father and I think that it partially came about because I was very sick after my first child. I was in the hospital from her 3rd month to her 5th month. He was alone raising her and they were a pretty tight little team when I came home, so I understand how hard it can be to break in.
Children need a mom AND a dad. Your type of attitude about fatherhood is one of the reasons men are marginalized as parents. Children are not served by this sexism that pushes them to the sidelines.
I feel My husband is the greatest father in the world. He loves our son. He plays with our son. They have little "inside jokes," if you will, that are only between them.
I'm not sexist. I just feel as though we as women are so special and have a divine mission, that if we choose motherhood it is our responsibility to stay home with our children and rear them.
It's funny you mention being sick. I had pre-ecclampsia when I was pregnant with our son and he was born 6 weeks pre-mature. he had to stay at the hospital for 5 days after he was born and the released me after 2, but only after being on Magnisium-Sulfate to combat Ecclampsia siezures. I spent the next 3 days not being able to be with my first son all the time, unless I sat in a chair and held him only to feed him every 3 hours. Then when I was about 18 months I spent 3 weeks in the hospital with pancreatitis. 2 weeks before gall bladder surgery and 1 week afterward.
I too believe children need a father and a mother. I just believe there is so much more we as mothers can provide for our children by staying hime with them.
