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October 11, 2005, 12:38 pm PDT

Need mother and father

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My mother and grandmother was not out fighting for womens rights, in fact, they were at home raising my mother and me!! HELLO! You want to get your point across that women should do what they want......this is what some of us want. I have a college degree, and I had a very rewarding career before I had my daughter, but i find NOTHING as rewarding as knowing I'M THE ONLY ONE RAISING MY DAUGHTER AND I'M THE ONLY ONE TAKING CARE OF MY HUSBAND!!!!!!! In fact, I did go back to work but  why have children if your just going to pawn them off on someone else to raise? I love with all my heart being able to take my daughter to school, pick her up, and have dinner on the table for my husband who works 70 plus hours a week in order to give us what we have. My husband appreciates me more than anyone ever has......he makes sure I have plenty of  time for just me, or for what I want.....but you know what?? 99% of the time when my husband comes home and says "Honey, you have outdone yourself....why don't I watch our daughter and you go to the spa this weekend?" my reply is almost always...."NO, I would rather spend that time with my daughter and husband!!" My husband is probably the hardest worker I have ever known.....even when he is at home, he is constantly asking me what he can do to help......so to me, what is wrong with making his life easier because he does just that for me by working and providing for us!! There is no difference in me wanting to please my husband and you wanting to please your boss. The only difference is, I'm almost positive my husband appreciates it more than any boss could.  

I agree that it is nice to have a SAHM.   My mother was always home when I got home from school, often with cookies or a piece of pie, and she was grateful to sit down and talk to me about my day, after having been home alone all day.  However, I think a properly raised child needs something from the father, also, that can't be provided by the mother.  The mother is nurturing and sympathetic, the father teaches you to be tough (especially boys).  It takes two, if there's not a father present, you need a stable male presence in the child's life.


 
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October 11, 2005, 1:17 pm PDT

Equal imortance

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My mother and grandmother was not out fighting for womens rights, in fact, they were at home raising my mother and me!! HELLO! You want to get your point across that women should do what they want......this is what some of us want. I have a college degree, and I had a very rewarding career before I had my daughter, but i find NOTHING as rewarding as knowing I'M THE ONLY ONE RAISING MY DAUGHTER AND I'M THE ONLY ONE TAKING CARE OF MY HUSBAND!!!!!!! In fact, I did go back to work but  why have children if your just going to pawn them off on someone else to raise? I love with all my heart being able to take my daughter to school, pick her up, and have dinner on the table for my husband who works 70 plus hours a week in order to give us what we have. My husband appreciates me more than anyone ever has......he makes sure I have plenty of  time for just me, or for what I want.....but you know what?? 99% of the time when my husband comes home and says "Honey, you have outdone yourself....why don't I watch our daughter and you go to the spa this weekend?" my reply is almost always...."NO, I would rather spend that time with my daughter and husband!!" My husband is probably the hardest worker I have ever known.....even when he is at home, he is constantly asking me what he can do to help......so to me, what is wrong with making his life easier because he does just that for me by working and providing for us!! There is no difference in me wanting to please my husband and you wanting to please your boss. The only difference is, I'm almost positive my husband appreciates it more than any boss could.  

Ok so in a way you are right and in away i think you are way off.  You are very right in saying that a father can not give the same things a mother can but it goes the other way as well.  Both parents are EQUALLY IMPORTANT.  Some things i can teach my children other things their fathers can teach them.  Yes i said fathers I am divorced and remarried.  I make sure that both fathers have time with my kids.  My ex was no good to be married to at all, however that doesn't make him a bad father or a bad person.  It makes no difference if the mother works or the father works if the thing that both people hold important is the importance of the children.
 
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October 11, 2005, 1:21 pm PDT

10/10 Wifestyles

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My mother and grandmother was not out fighting for womens rights, in fact, they were at home raising my mother and me!! HELLO! You want to get your point across that women should do what they want......this is what some of us want. I have a college degree, and I had a very rewarding career before I had my daughter, but i find NOTHING as rewarding as knowing I'M THE ONLY ONE RAISING MY DAUGHTER AND I'M THE ONLY ONE TAKING CARE OF MY HUSBAND!!!!!!! In fact, I did go back to work but  why have children if your just going to pawn them off on someone else to raise? I love with all my heart being able to take my daughter to school, pick her up, and have dinner on the table for my husband who works 70 plus hours a week in order to give us what we have. My husband appreciates me more than anyone ever has......he makes sure I have plenty of  time for just me, or for what I want.....but you know what?? 99% of the time when my husband comes home and says "Honey, you have outdone yourself....why don't I watch our daughter and you go to the spa this weekend?" my reply is almost always...."NO, I would rather spend that time with my daughter and husband!!" My husband is probably the hardest worker I have ever known.....even when he is at home, he is constantly asking me what he can do to help......so to me, what is wrong with making his life easier because he does just that for me by working and providing for us!! There is no difference in me wanting to please my husband and you wanting to please your boss. The only difference is, I'm almost positive my husband appreciates it more than any boss could.  

I totally agree with you. My husband sent me to a spa for the day for my bday and I was miserable.  I would have much rathered been home with the family.  But the massage was nice, lol. 

  

 
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October 11, 2005, 1:42 pm PDT

THANK YOU!!

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My mother and grandmother was not out fighting for womens rights, in fact, they were at home raising my mother and me!! HELLO! You want to get your point across that women should do what they want......this is what some of us want. I have a college degree, and I had a very rewarding career before I had my daughter, but i find NOTHING as rewarding as knowing I'M THE ONLY ONE RAISING MY DAUGHTER AND I'M THE ONLY ONE TAKING CARE OF MY HUSBAND!!!!!!! In fact, I did go back to work but  why have children if your just going to pawn them off on someone else to raise? I love with all my heart being able to take my daughter to school, pick her up, and have dinner on the table for my husband who works 70 plus hours a week in order to give us what we have. My husband appreciates me more than anyone ever has......he makes sure I have plenty of  time for just me, or for what I want.....but you know what?? 99% of the time when my husband comes home and says "Honey, you have outdone yourself....why don't I watch our daughter and you go to the spa this weekend?" my reply is almost always...."NO, I would rather spend that time with my daughter and husband!!" My husband is probably the hardest worker I have ever known.....even when he is at home, he is constantly asking me what he can do to help......so to me, what is wrong with making his life easier because he does just that for me by working and providing for us!! There is no difference in me wanting to please my husband and you wanting to please your boss. The only difference is, I'm almost positive my husband appreciates it more than any boss could.  

I totally agree with you!!  You said it better than I ever could have. 
 


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