Quote From: gigglybutt
I have a sister that has twins, boy and girl. They are 19 months old and are terrors!! They scream to the top of their lungs, they bite each other, they bite their Mom, they are always into EVERYTHING!! They do not travel 2 hours in a car without screaming the whole way cuz they want their mommy to hold them, or take them out of their car seats. She tells them no, no, no because they are into everything, they don't listen. She tries to redirect them, but they come right back to what they aren't supposed to do. I don't know what to say to her, because I never let my children act this way, and I don't want to hurt her feelings, but her kids are brats, and I don't want to be around them because it just makes me want to discipline them myself, and I need to let her be the mommy she thinks she needs to be for her children. Any thoughts?
I would welcome any pointers.
My sister and I also have agreed upon how "we" should parent all of our children. When I am her house, she helps me with mine. When she is at my house, I help her with hers. We are a united front. It's like our kids have two Moms.
Because I love my sis dearly and there is nothing we haven't shared, I would trust her enough to tell her that she is making a BIG mistake by not setting limits for her own kids. If she lets them get away with murder NOW while they are young and relatively controllable, ask her if she can imagine how they will behave 5/10/15 years from now? I would be gentle in the way that I tell her but I would also CARE ENOUGH to be truthful even when it hurts.
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