Quote From: jklanierStand by your man may have been a good song title, but having been that woman not once but twice now, I can tell you it's not good advice. The Bible tells us this is the only REAL excuse for a legal divorce for a woman!! I speak from my own heart when I say that NO woman deserves this treatment nor the embaracement attached to it!! I say this because I caught my husband just before he strayed & let the woman know via email to stay away from him, it worked. Now she informs me when he emails her. We women really are smarter. If a man tries it a second time he deserves whatever the judge decides he gets.
Do you know what the judge decided my ex got in our community property state? He admited that my money bought the house we lived in for 27 years, he admitted my ex was the one who strayed (hell my ex admitted that in the divorce papers himself) and then the judge awarded him 40 percent of my pension for life, 45 perccent of the house and I got 50 percent of an IRA! Then, to top it all off, my ex said he was so devastated from losing me, he couldn't work, and the judge awarded him support for one year while he got back on his feet and the girlfriend got $100.00 rent a month! (I called it money for services rendered.) That was with a great lawyer in a small town where the judge, the only show in town, told me that I chose to go into the world of work so it was my fault.
Now my ex is retired and I still work. But----- I am still glad I made the choices I did. Do I think the court system is fair, having gone through it? No. (P.S. - a local woman took on the judge and had him brought up on charges. She lost custody of her children. I guess I was lucky.) Did my ex get what he deserved? Not by a long shot!!!!
