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March 25, 2008, 6:16 am PDT
I get scared too
Quote From: ladytigerHello everyone! i got have a prob. i have been busy with school and stuff. i also have been working to improve myself for a while. i have been going to meetups with hobbies that interest me, for some reason, i still have a lot of fear in me. i used to be outgoing, but then being sheltered in my house cuz of my mom ive lost everything. i still cant seem to ask someone if they want to get together, have lunch, or hang out. even when i like someone i still cant ask them at all, i dont know what to do. i have been working on my communication skills and i am improving .
i feel as though i cant do this self improvement by myself, i have been thinking about goin to toastmasters to help with my confidence and improve my interpersonal com skills. am i incapable of asking someone to have lunch with me? i still get scared of asking people. even at this meet up i go to, there was a few women i wanted to make friends with but i couldnt open my mouth up, what is wrong with me?!
also, i use myspace to make friends offline but that always leads to HUGE disappointments. i tend to meet ppl who are always losers, no aspirations, fake, liars, high school dropouts, or sex freaks! i dont know what it is about my ads or profiles i write, but those are the ones who email me. im 22, i feel like i am missing out on life like parties, clubs, local bands, etc. my spring break is over now and i wanted to do some volunteering but that didnt seem to happen. i have found a new way to really improve myself by using eft. is there a way i can be an outgoing person again? do i find making friends is hard for me? any opinions or advice?
I understand how you feel, I have a huge fear of rejection and it makes it hard for me to make friends. Since I struggle with the same thing you do, I don't know how I can help. The good thing is that your going to meetings and groups that does things that you like. So you have the oppertunity to meet new people. Other than church I don't go anywhere else to meet new people. I know I should, but it scares me. I've been told its not a good idea to make friends on the internet, its better to make friends you can talk to face-to-face. I wish I could help you with this, but I can't. I need to do a lot of work on myself as well.
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