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I have been watching todays show and the blonde gal that has been married 4 times and still can't make up her mind needs to let the nice gentleman go.  She is only playing him and he seems way to nice for her games.  I am a hard working single female that would love to have the honesty and sincerity that he seems to have.  There are not many men left out there that would like to have the one on one committment that he is looking for and she should be very grateful to have him.  She has no love or respect for him and he should move on before he gets his heart broke.  She is not looking for the same thing as him and she WILL break his heart.  He is way to good for her, or so he seems on TV anyhow.  She needs to wake up and smell the roses.  There are many of us women out there that would love to find a true gentleman .... why is it that the women that like to play games end up with the good ones???  I just don't get it.  If she wants a game player I can hook her up with several!!!  She needs to leave the decent guys alone!!!

Good question.

"We" can't change today's boys into tomorrow's men unless "we" are their Mother or father.

It starts by being responsible with our own selves, not having babies when we are too young to know how to raise them right....or, if we do, making sure we find the resources to help us along the way....and then, making our children our top priority, no matter what!! 

If we are single Mothers, we don't allow a boyfriend...or even a new husband...to take over our job. We make our sons accountable, teach them respect, EARN their respect as their Mother by not falling into addictions, whatever form those addictions take...being a good example, and teaching them how to treat women. As Mothers, we don't accept excuses for unacceptable behavior from our sons, and we teach our daughters love and respect for themselves and not to settle for anything less than what they deserve from a future partner!

We stay strong; we don't take the "easy" way out by letting some ignorant fool of a man near us or our children just so we won't have to go out into the cold, hard world and earn a living for ourselves and our children.

I've been there; I know what I'm talking about. It was hard raising my son and two daughters alone, but I did it and they are wonderful, successful, happily married people today. My son treats his wife like gold, and my daughters have each chosen a wonderful man to be their husband. It starts in childhood; it starts with dedicated parents, single or married.

It will take a couple generations to make this change. But I really think that if you want men to act like men, then women need to act like women. The woman's movement to eqaulity in America and the world was and is not a bad thing. But in the process no one thought of what it is really like to grow up a man in this world. You raise your daughters to stand up for their rights and say go to hell men we rule this world, then you want men to treat your daughters with tender loving care and stay home while they pamper them. Well which way do you want it. Be a man or be a woman but you can't have it both ways. For many years it was a mans role to bring home the bacon and a woman would stay home and take care of the children. Over the last 40 years women have fought so hard to change that role and they succeeded. Being pushed around and bullied all of our lives is part of being a man. If you want to reverse it (which is impossible) then moms need to stay home and raise boys and girls to be boys and girls. What most women never realized is how noble and so important the role of homemaker and mother really was and is and how so vital it really was to the America alot of people grew up in. The minds of millions of boys and girls and their roles in society has changed forever. It is no longer little boys role to take care of girls anymore because we grow up knowing that they do not want us to take care of them anymore and if we try to we get called a sexist pig at a very early age. The outside world and the inside instincts are fighting and the world is winning. So congrats on the liberation thing ladies, you should have asked a man how hard it is to live in a man's world before you started it. We never doubted how hard your role was that is why we never fought to be a homemaker in the 60's and 70's.

37 year old male, Tx.