Quote From: mikeinneed
I need help. My wife and I are most likely getting a divorce. I dont want to get into many details, except I have done a few things to her that hurt her emotionally and made her not feel safe with me. That caused her to feel safe with someone else and I cought her cheating on me. So it has been a horrendous roller coaster. When it comes down to us divorcing she cant see herself being a part time parent (she is a homemaker). I can understand that. I can also see me not wanting to be alone either. We have been married over 12 years. What I need help on is what is everyones thoughts on this: She wants to live in the house when we divorce so she can be with the children, so she can be a full time parent. She will get a job, pay for bills and live in the basement. We discussed it a month ago and thought it was great but after thinking about it I dont think its a good idea. I am not going to tell you guys my reasons why cause I want to influence anyone. So please tell me your thoughts!!!!!!!!!!!!
Mike Living under the same roof will only serve to perpetuate the bad feelings and will make it difficult to get the distance and perspective required to heal the wounds. Regardless of how convenient this arrangement may seem, and regardless of how easy it may be to paint this arrangement as "being the best for the children", it is not. You both need the benefit of distance right now to sort through where events have taken you. The last thing either of you need to be focused on at this moment is who the other may be having over for company. There are much better options for both of you.
Take care
