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March 27, 2008, 9:13 am PDT
Are you talking like living together?
Quote From: mikeinneed
I need help. My wife and I are most likely getting a divorce. I dont want to get into many details, except I have done a few things to her that hurt her emotionally and made her not feel safe with me. That caused her to feel safe with someone else and I cought her cheating on me. So it has been a horrendous roller coaster. When it comes down to us divorcing she cant see herself being a part time parent (she is a homemaker). I can understand that. I can also see me not wanting to be alone either. We have been married over 12 years. What I need help on is what is everyones thoughts on this: She wants to live in the house when we divorce so she can be with the children, so she can be a full time parent. She will get a job, pay for bills and live in the basement. We discussed it a month ago and thought it was great but after thinking about it I dont think its a good idea. I am not going to tell you guys my reasons why cause I want to influence anyone. So please tell me your thoughts!!!!!!!!!!!!
Mike That would be disastrous. But as far as neither of you wanting to be alone, what would be best for the children? Are there reasons they shouldn't live with their mom full time other than you not wanting to be alone? That probably came out wrong but my internal editor is broke, sorry. Which parent is more suited to have the kids full time? That's where the children should be. Who are they closer to? If she's a homemaker, there's a good chance they're more bonded to her. Tthey're going to need that bond for stability going through the nightmare of a broken home. Please don't make the mistake my ex is making. He is trying to get the children for his own selfish reasons instead of what's best for them. They've been going through a 3 year nightmare that he won't let them pull out of. Living together would be a BAD idea though, trust me.
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