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March 19, 2008, 5:29 pm PDT
 Quote From: tngirl33 My sister and I have told her over and over that we love her but she is too negative. We are trying to get our lives together and raise our kids without all the negativity in their lives and then here she comes. She will ask my kids if I have fed them today. She ask them what they ate. She ask if I have paid any attention to them today! If I have company, she comes over and embarrasses me by putting me down about how bad a mother I am to my kids. If I am not in my kid's face all the time..I am neglecting them. She nevre comes over and says anything nice. So when I ignore her and tell her to stay away., she threatens to kill herself. She does this to my sister and her kids too. It is driving us crazy. She wrote my sister a letter and told her that she has forsake her and she will regret it one day. My sister is soo upset. Nothing we do for her is good enough. We cant support her financially. We do good to support our own family. But she expects us too. It's just crazy. We tell her to get a life. Maybe you and your sister just needs to cut all ties with mom. And tell her that is she doesn't straighten up she won't be able to see the grandkids or you guys. Tell her that you and your sister will move out of state to get away from her. I think she only threatens suicide to get attention. Maybe her whole attitude is for attention? I don't know. But one thing I do know that I wouldn't put up with that. My sister and i was close but now I won't talk to her because she is a drunk, and everything is about her. She lost her daughter in 2006 and she started cutting herself and threatening suicide . so the father of her daughter takes her back, and it worked. But she bitches to her son that I raised saying that I don't care about her and what happened to her daughter. But that 's not true, I do care. I just won't and don't have patients to take care of somebody that should take care of themselves. Our mother lost a son to an overdose, and my mother is not suicidal. As a matter of fact She quit drinking and smoking that year. Cold turkey. My sister just wants attention and thinks that we all suppose to stop our lives because of her tragedy. So we don't bother her. she tries to call my house and we let the answering machine pick up. she and and my nieces father came down in October of last year to scatter my nieces ashes and The whole two weeks she was here My mom and I didn't see her. Because we don't have the patients anymore to put up with her drunkenness and pity me attitude.
I don't know if you and your sister has the strength to do what me and my mother is doing to my sister. But you really need to think about the welfare of your own children and if you want them to be exposed to that kind of behavior.( to me not healthy). but you guys need to take a stand for your children and your own sanity. take care and god bless you, your sister and all the children. Aloha from Hawaii |
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