Quote From: motomel3I have 2 children from a previous marriage and remarried in July 07. My current husband has 3 children from a previous relationship, so we have 5 kids total. Prior to getting married, we did discuss having one child. We agreed to get our finances straight and last month I was able to accomplish this task. The topic of children has come up again and he has changed his mind and no longer wants another child. I understand that I can not force him or trick him to have one. If we don't have a child between us, I feel like part of me will hate him for the rest of our marriage. If we do have a child, he might hate me and the new baby. I feel like I am in a "no win" situation. Both of us have even discussed leaving one another (divorce) because we feel so strongly about the topic.
I am in my 3rd marriage, my husband's first. I don't want to leave and end this one but I am not happy. I feel very unloved and unappreciated. My husband totally hates my daughter from a previous relationship and that has driven a HUGE wedge in our marriage. He has basically said, I need to get over it. I really feel like I am trying to work this one but in the midst of trouble, I have turned by to my old habits of wandering for some excitement and the feeling of "love".
I would encourage you to work out your differences before bringing an other child into the home - that would be truly unfair to them since they cannot defend themselves and will only learn from the brokenness in your current relationship.
I worry about our little 2 year old girl since our communication is so non-existent at this point. I do plan to start therapy when my insurance will cover it next month, but each time I have gone through therapy, my marriage has not survived in the past. Hopefully, this one will
