Replies to '12/28 Wifestyles'

I am just a bit unclear if you are suggesting that my posts in particular have been hostile or if 'the posts have been hostile' is referring to more than just mine? 

I am most certainly a feminist and its in my name so that i am completely open with all on here about my academic standing within the community and therefore, yes, perhaps you could argue my bias.  However, i don't think that i have been hostile to you in any respect about your decisiona nd dedication to being a stay at home mother--rather i have said repeatedly, that the labour mothers (and fathers for that matter) do int he home in an effort to successfully raise their children should be rewarded and appreciated.  I have said repeatedly that it is not a job that i know i could do well or would want to do--i love my children more than anything in the world and have spent extensive hours locating and researching more than adequate childcare facilities where they are well taken care of and loved.  I arrange my work day so that i can be home with them as much as possible.  However, i am aware that i cannot be healthy and happy being a stay at home mother----this is not solely due to my single mother status because even when i was with their father i chose to work outside of the home. 

I think that i have been more than open to the topic!  I do however have strong beliefs about what men's role should be in the childrearing process--   

I think that the fact you and your husband have worked out such a nice situation for yourselves is fantastic--i have never said here that you were under a man's control or succumbing to patriarchal notions of family---sentiments that are usually and often wrongly associated with feminism.  the point that i have repeatedly tried to make is that a) not all women can choose whether to be stay at home moms or working mothers--life often dictates which they will become, b) women who pass judgement on other mothers employment status (whether working in the home or for pay) are causing feelings of inadequacy amongst perfectly capable women and c) women could have career and family if men picked up more of the slack (if thats what the chose to do).